For teenage boys only~~~?

Question

I am now 13, undergoing puberty. I think that my mind is not 'clean' anymore... Normally, boys should like girls. But, for me, I like boys, especially handsome ones who are around my age. I suppose this is due to my curiosity in them about how they are experiencing puberty. I am even more curious how their body would look like... I am very worried about myself. What should I do? please help me...

Answer 1

I'm not a teenage boy, Harry, but I think I can help. At the beginning of puberty, it's common to have crushes on people of the same sex and fantasies just as it is to have these about the opposite sex, whether you are gay, bisexual or straight. And being gay is normal, just a slightly different flavor. About 5% to 10% of people are gay, and even the animal kingdom has same sex attraction.

Realizing that you have sexual feelings and urges is not dirty, it's also perfectly normal. Acting sexually irresponsible is the only really dirty thing. That means protecting yourself and your partner, being honest, being mature enough to be in a sexual relations ship, being in only a consensual relationship. Masturbation is a safe and normal way of dealing with all those hormones until you are truly ready for sex with another.

Hopefully you can have a frank discussion with your parents, but since you think of yourself as not being clean now, I'm afraid that might not be. You can get some great and anonymous help online. One place is http://www.scarleteen.com for all sorts of info about sex and other issues.

Another that's good for you know and which would help your whole family if you should happen to be gay is
http://www.pflag.org . PFLAG is "parents and friends of lesbians and gays" and has special outreach for gay, bisexual or questioning young people.

Everyone feels a little weird during puberty, so don't be too hard on yourself. You sound quite normal.

Answer 2

Patricia GF has a really good answer, so I don't know if I have anything to add.

You ask for answers from teenagen boys only. I am not a teen, let's jsut say I am old enought to be your Dad, but I remember turning 13, a experiencing exeactly what you are describing. And no, I am not just saying so to makle you feel better.

The fact you ask for other teenage boys' opinions suggests to me, you are maybe looking for someone who feels the same way you do, maybe a boyfriend? You seem to have made up your mind about what you like to see in other boys rou own age, so it suggests your orientation has been set and you are now refining your basic feelings.

I do understand your anxiety here. When I was 13, I used to 'get caught' looking at guys in class, and they would become angry when they saw me staring--they knew why. Well, first of all staring just isn't cool, and this was a long time ago, I think today in the 2000s, maybe the guys will be alittle more understanding with you.

Anyway, you ask what should you do? Is there a peer counselling centre at your school, church, community centre? You need to know that you are not alone, your sexual interests are not 'impure,' and that puberty, while not always pleasant, most often embarassing awkward and frustrating, is a journey every human makes.

Your same sex attraction, judjing by what you report in your post, suggests you are likely gay. I think you are kidding yourself when you say you are just curious about their development. But in any case, take Patricia's advice, maybe contact PFLAG and other support groups.

You will get used to your sexual feelings, and if you see beauty in the other young men your age, appreciate that this is the way you are.

I think the male form is very graceful, intriguing, entrancing, and and endless source of pleasing beauty. I think, you will have to agree.

Good luck, do not worry, you are totally normal.

Answer 3

I'm not a teenage boy, nor a teenager anymore. But nobody likes going through puberty. Your body is changing, Hair is growing in unexpected places, and new thoughts are entering your mind. You may feel drawn to certain things, like guys for instance. These are all normal. You can have "boy-crushes". It's probably more of an infatuation with them because you are so curious as to what they are experiencing, and you want to compare yourself with that. You don't think they are thinking the same thing, so you think what you are experiencing isn't normal. But chances are, they are thinking about what everyone else is going through. Do you have any friends that are going through the same thing? Maybe you could talk to them about what is going on. I'm sure they would share some things that you think may be weird. The biggest thing is, going through puberty is rough, but give it time. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the easier this will be, and the easier it will be to recognize your sexuality. You're going to be the person God wanted you to be no matter what. Everybody has to go through this, you'll appreciate it some day :-)

Answer 4

As many answers said I could repeat ... to wait.... to don't worry..... to talk with relatives..... and other useless words, but I won't do it. In your shoes whoever is worried and pissed. And that only because in this damn society the sexuality is taboo and there still is discrimination and prejudice. Whoever doesn't become straight will be obliged to live a bad heavy life, hiding his sexuality on the most part of the cases. So, it's normal for you to be scared and flipped out! It's useless trying to understand the reasons or to change it..... useless to cry on this hard reality! Sorry you're and will be gay! The only advice I can give you now it's to canalize your (right) anger exploiting it. Fight against this damn society.... react to the close mind... rebel to the discrimination thro your pride being gay. You're young having strength and time to do that. Trumpet your diversity proudly and please don't be the nth sad boy mistreated by this society passively.

Answer 5

Your curiosity is perfectly normal for a boy of your age. A majority of the male population go through these thoughts, feelings and emotions in their teenage years. If your curious about other boys, then u should perhaps talk to one of them and see if they are curious about the same thing.
Dont worry too much about it. Its ok.

Answer 6

Buy some muscle mags and enjoy. You are in the discovery phase of your sexuality, and all males whether they will admit it or not, will look at very attractive guys--it is just nature. Does not make you gay, you decide that, and it is too early for you to decide if you might be so inclined.

Answer 7

So did I when I was your age. You'll be fine. Just don't lie about it and cover it up like I did - enjoy it. I had some fantastic experiences with my friends at the all-boys school I went to. You're not 'dirty minded' or anything like that. You're just a boy who likes boys. What's wrong with that? Ask a boy over to stay at your place one weekend night. See what happens next.

Answer 8

Well as you see the whole world isnt one sexual orientation looks like your going to turn out gay man. Or ya might just be curious who knos only time will tell

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Patricia G F said it all, and said it so well I'll just leave it at that. You do sound perfectly normal. This is the age when you become curious.




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