2006-09-17 20:07:02 · 18 answers · asked by Charlotte's mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage is a commitment, divorce is breaking the commitment.
living together is, walk away because there is no committment.
all about your commitment to yourself, are you worth a commitment. relationships work or they don't. do you place any value in yourself. A trial marriage to see if it might work. why!
2006-09-17 20:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistics show there is a 50 to 60% higher risk that a marriage will end in divorce if people live together before marriage. Studies have also shown there is less likelihood of divorce after marriage if people are 25 yrs. of age or older, college educated, have a good income, and their parents stayed married.
Why would a person want to live with someone before marriage? The reality is that if they live together they will always have one foot out the door and won't have a true committment to the marriage or each other. Statistically, women and children come out the losers in the "live together" scenario because they are often abandoned by the boyfriend. And ladies - why would you want to give men all the benefits of the marriage bed without the committment? It's about self-respect. Respect yourself even if he doesn't!
2006-09-18 03:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO
It was shown in studies done in the early 70's living together before marriage did not improve the chances of the realtionship.
Statisics show a woman is MORE likely to be battered in a live in realtionship than married, & so are the children of such arrangment.
2006-09-18 03:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Celtic Tejas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better to live together before marriage. Otherwise, the temptation is to rush into marriage before you have really got to know each other.
2006-09-18 03:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i would be better to live with them before marriage and to give about a year. hopefully by then you will be able to find each others dislikes and likes. its a lot harder to do that not living with them. if you get married before chances are it aint going to work because it may seem alright at first then yall are going to be doing stuff the other person dont think is right. just go on your gut instinct
2006-09-18 03:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by anthony8891 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before. You need to do it so you can find out if the person you're marrying is the type of person you can live with. Staying with someone for a few days as opposed to living with them is completely different. When you live with someone you can find out EVERY habit they have (both the good and bad) and you can deal with the issues before you're married.
Think about it and you'll see my point.
Good Luck.
2006-09-18 03:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really if favour in living with someone before marriage, I just think it makes a marriage stronger if you wait. Always remember that if you're good enough to live with then you're good enough to marry :-).
2006-09-18 03:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
living in together, even briefly will surely help you to get to know more of each other. the closet habits are sure to come out one way or another. Its better to deal with them now than after you're tied up. Otherwise, have a 2 month backpacking trip. it is enough preview and you'll know.
2006-09-18 03:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better off living together... you get to know the person better on a more intimate level... you can see what their annoying habits are... what their little "tell tales" are... and decide if that person fits in with you before the marriage...
2006-09-18 03:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live together before. It's much more exciting and intimate to wait until after you are married, and fully committed.
2006-09-18 08:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋