she left on septemer the1st . i was at work when i came home she was gone . till this day she only e.mails me . she tells me that she loves me . my family tells me to walk away cz she will hurt me again .i guess i don't want to accept it . i'm still in love with her i know she's with somebody else . what can i do?
2006-09-17 19:59:39 · 29 answers · asked by prince 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Feelings doesn't just over night disappear and when you love someone it doesn't just disappears right away. It will take a while maybe weeks or months and for some even years but it all depends on you how you will try to coop with your feelings for her. What I can suggest to you is try to occupy yourself with some different things or new things..like maybe hangout more often with friends, watch movies, etc.
Take care and take it easy. I know how you feel, been there and done that!
2006-09-17 20:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, If she left just 17 days ago, behind your back while you were at work, and you know shes with another guy...THINK REAL HARD HERE. She had to be cheating on you. Do you want that? Did you not know she was? With cheating, comes lies, and when a person starts lying to cover up, your trust is broken, and it turns that person into somebody different. Something they can never get back. So she is not the same person you fell in love with. She is now a disgrace. You will never have trust. The love will never be as strong. It is lost now. It is time to find a new lady to share your life with. Because the old one walked out the door.
2006-09-18 03:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you still love her! If you didn't ever truly love her, it would be easy to forget her and just move on. It's all too fresh and you are confused and maybe also in denial about how, in fact, she has not only moved on, but cheated (regardless of sexual relations) on you and has formally ended the relationship.
I would listen to your family. I know it feels like the most difficult thing to do right now. Just take it one day at a time. I would not email her back. For one, it send her the message that what she did to you is okay. Also, she can't have the best of both worlds.
I know how much you must be hurting and confused about what to do. But your family is 100% right. You will come to this realization, but not for a long time. In the meanwhile, please, please believe that she has made her choice and it is not a reflection of anything you did. She may still love you, but not enough b/c she hooked up w/ someone else. Maybe she has infidelity issues...are you sure you want a lifetime of heartache w/ someone like that?
2006-09-18 03:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your heart lead you. It seems both of you love each other and need to work something out. There is a reason behind everything. Apparently your family knows the issues involved here better than I and perhaps are giving you some good advice. So it would be best to weight the consquences. So why hold on to the flower when it is fading away, just find you a newer prettier flower and be happy.
2006-09-18 03:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let go, and you will not have to be hurt. You must learn to accept the fact that once it's over, we have to let go. By letting go, you will be able to start a new chapter of your life without being haunted by the past!
She's obviously not sincere and frank with you. That's why she has to leave you while you're away at work. Unless, of course, you have something that has hurt her very badly and that you will stop her from leaving you forcefully!
It's a boost to your ego to hear from her that she still loves you, right? You did not specify whether she left you for someone else. If she's not with someone else, then she has not hurt you. You have hurt her!
2006-09-18 03:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows why we love. But when we do we know it for sure, even if it is not really a knowledgeable thing, it's a feeling that cannot be denied. So no use denying it, don't be afraid to get hurt again, just be afraid to get love again for some of love simply hurts. So really don't base your actions on your fear or those of others, base them on what you really feel and act that. Chances are that she will realize that what you two have is the real thing. Just imagine how you would react if she would be afraid that you would leave her, hurt her or she would act overly jealous! That wouldn't be very appealing would it?
Best of luck to you. Just dive in head first sorta!
2006-09-18 03:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gulp......I'm sorry for you, been there. I think the best thing is to just try to keep yourself occupied. I know it's easier said than done, but it will be the best thing. Lean on your family ALOT, I know I did. It was too hard to go out with friends (until later) because it hurt to see other couples together. I wouldn't accept her emails - it only keeps a painful connection going. Do you find yourself waiting for her emails? I bet you do.........so try and distance yourself. In time (and that is the only thing that will help, not booze, or dating, etc.....not now anyway and booze is only temporary) everything will be better and you'll wonder why you wasted all that time holding on. Ask me how I know..... ; )
Just remember this when you go to bed at night: This is the choice SHE made, not you, HER loss, not yours!!! Say a prayer everynight before you go to bed (and not one that she'll be back), just ask that your God do whatever they know is right for you.
Best of Luck to You..... Ã
2006-09-18 03:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is right. You should cut her out of your life completely.
The reason you still love her is because you are a nice person who has feelings like a normal, decent human being. But she is not. When it comes to dating, words mean nothing and actions mean everything. If she really loved you like she claims, she wouldn't traumatize you by leaving like a total coward and only sending you emails. At best she is selfish, at worst she is cruel. One day, hopefully you will realize that she did you a favor by removing her cowardly *** out of your house and latching her tentacles on to some poor bastard.
I think it will be very difficult for you to stop emailing her and thinking about her, but trust your family and do it. Women come and go but family is forever. Your family is your blood, they will always have your very best interests at heart.
2006-09-18 03:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she left you for someone else and you return to her, it will happen over and over again continuing your pain. Maybe not answering her emails, not being convenient for her would give her room to think of what she has done and the great person she is missing out on!! Do things with your friends, I know it hurts. Time with others can give you insight!! Hang in there!!
2006-09-18 03:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by togo4thandprosper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys, what do i say to a question like this. You have to get over her. She ditched you for someone else and we all know you're hurting (that's what love does to your heart). Be the stronger person and tell her its over. Yes you still love her. But she walked on you and that is unacceptable. don't give a second chance if she hurt you like that. Be the sensable one and walk away.
2006-09-18 03:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by venus101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋