My life partner had Initiated Sex only 4-6 times in10 year duration of our marriage. She has always refused to respond in foreplay. We had fights on other issues may be 5-10 times in a year. She has strained her relations with her in laws, thogh it wasn't unilateral.She is 5'-1" weighs 43 Kg. has a very lean figure & is 33 years.When I tried to have talk on this(sex) issue, She didn't respond, & She accuses me to be a sex addict, whenever I make advances 2nd time in a week. She is not involved with anybody else. When I suggested for Psychological Evaluation, after evaluating her medically( Her T3, T4,TSH, BSL is Normal, Tests to rule out Tb were negative), She confronted in negative. Even after 2 months absteinance, She responds in very insulting way for any sort of advances. I have tried everything, (gifting,going on vacation, sharing work, in fact She had reacted in very insulting way when I had cooked even though recipe was not bad!) but it hasn't worked. Should I Divorce her?
2006-09-17 19:40:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you just came right out and asked her? It could be some sort of abuse in her past. Do you love her-and feel that she definitely loves you? It depends on what is in your heart!!
2006-09-17 19:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by togo4thandprosper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she has some issues... sometimes someone failing to have or want sex can be down to either a medical problem or a physical problem or a mental problem...
could be that she either finds sex unfulfilling or painful or stirs up some sort of really bad memory... was she abused as a child??? (this is more common than people like to think)...
perhaps there are several options open to you...
1) Divorce - a little extreme but if there is no love or respect in the relationship then a break might be the answer...
2) Open Relationship - you (and she, if she wants it) have sex partners outside the relationship...
3) Talk and find out whether she actually wants sex anymore and if there is something she wants/needs to mention to you...
4) Just have sex with someone else outside the marriage...
5) Spend your time miserable, watching porn or on the net getting cybersex...
2006-09-17 19:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her, probably with a marriage counselor. Ask her to try to explain what's wrong, and tell her how her behavior is making you unhappy. If the marriage is important to her, she will agree to therapy. If not, well at least you'll know.
2006-09-17 20:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she should see a gynecologists and see why she has a lack of interest in sex or maybe her heart is not with you but with someone else women have a heart full of secrets and maybe you're just not one of them either way i know exactly what you're going through
2006-09-17 19:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by tygres303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋