WELL ME AND MY FIANCE WE'RE SUPPOSE TO GET MARRIED IN ONE WEEK AND NOW HIS MOM AND DAD ARE SICK AND HE WANTS TO GO BACK TO MEXICO AND HELP HIS FAMILY (MOM AND DAD) AND I CANT DEAL WITH HIM GOING TO MEXICO AND IM AFRAID THAT HE MIGHT LEAVE ME AND NEVER COME BACK BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO AND I HOPE SOMEONE CAN GIVE ME ADIVICE PLEASE!AND SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE THANKYOU
2006-09-17 19:22:03 · 19 answers · asked by loca16_4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why not go with him as his wife and help him?
2006-09-17 19:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by beckini 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him go with him and help him with his parents. Not only will this help you understand his family and upbringing but it will also give you a chance to support your partner. So many times we want this person and their love but we are not willing to give up any thing to get it or show it. A wedding it just a day that people come celebrate your union it can always be rescheduled. But a marriage is a commitment to that person before the I do's happened. If it is a job that is holding you back let it go their will always be another job. This person that loves you is complex, you should not think so highly of this union if it puts your partner in a tough spot. Take time to understand what needs he has, and then decided if you can do that if you can not then you must let him go. Their are no rules to life, just remember it is short and so many times we try to live in a bubble that is the norm, but guess what their are no boundaries. Love him completely, let him know either way that you support him in whatever decision he makes, make sure you see it from his prospective as well, what if it was your parnets. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 02:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by redhair_qt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he won't leave. Ask him to delay the going back to Mexico plan by just one week or if worse comes worse, get married in a court and at least you will be legally husband and wife then. You can have a proper wedding ceremony later on. By the way, if you're really sure about his love for you...why are you worrying that he will leave you, is the love in your relationship so delicate because if that's the case, your marriage won't last the hardships of time. On the other hand, you could go with your fiancee and just get married in Mexico!
2006-09-18 02:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow him there since he will be back for that business and thats also means he will be there for a long time. Of both parties apart, then what the point to continue the relationship? If you really can't miss him and are ready for him, the best solution is just to follow him and start only to plan for something when both of you are settled down in Mexico.
2006-09-18 02:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions,and you will have your answer.
1. Are you marrying him to try and pin him down?
2. If he doesn't love you enough to come back to you, wouldn't you want to know that now?
3. If he did stay and never come back, wouldn't you be better off than to have him do it when you have one in diapers and another on your hip?
4. If you really have a lasting relationship, don't you believe that he will return?
2006-09-18 02:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Robert M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look girl if you can't trust him any further then for him to go help his family . then you really don't have a vary strong relationship or maybe he is getting cold feet about marriage it happens to a lot of guys . does he seem to just want to get away find out what is wrong with his mom n dad has he got a green card maybe he thinks that they will find him out when it is posted with the state who knows you are there were not your heart will tell you
2006-09-18 02:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
M'lady, as I see it, you have 4 options
1. Go with him.
2. Wait
3. Get married before he leaves.
4. Call it off ( for now )
The fact that you think it might not happen sounds troubling. I think you should resolve yourself to it not happening. Go to him and say..."I understand that right now, your family comes first. I'm calling the wedding off. You don't need the pressure." Be the one to walk away. If it was meant to happen, it will. But if you come off as needy, it will definetly backfire on you.
2006-09-18 02:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are so right in thinking that. Many times they go back there to another family you know wife and children. Iam not saying he doesnt care but alot of people come here to make money to feed there families which is awsome and fall in love here, Sad good luck try to understand how important their way of life is with family.
2006-09-18 02:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You Feel Like That, Then Go With Him.
2006-09-18 02:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by iLL_TeK_NeekZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go i mean his parents are sick the last thing his thinking of is leaving you
2006-09-18 02:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fabian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, if you guys are about to get married then he obviously loves you. Of course he'll be back for you. No worries.
2006-09-18 02:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋