after 11yrs of marriage my wife got on the internet she started chatting with some guys .she change she neglected me . all i could see is her floating on air in love with who ever she chatted with. i was mad so i ask her for a divorce she laughf at me told me i didn't have the balls to do it but i did . she told me that she will pick yahoo messenger over me .so tell me something . now she want's to come back what should i do?
2006-09-17 19:11:26 · 11 answers · asked by prince 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it hard to said. i would suggust that you should move on.
if you do accpet her back then have a common gound with her. like chatting with her what like and dislike
2006-09-17 19:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once Bitten, Twice Shy. Leave her for good. She's gonna mess up your life. She already messed when she started chatting with the other guys on the Net after 11 years or marriage.
Look, take my advice. She's already dumped you for Yahoo. And now she wants to come back. Don't let her back into your life. She'll take you for granted because she knows how soft your heart is. Don't ever let her, or any woman, take advantage of you. Be the better person and walk away.
That's my advice to you. Hope it helps you.
2006-09-18 02:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by venus101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father used to say....When you are brave to take a decition you must be braver to take the consecuences ....You make a decition do not go back .....she knew you were going to do it and then come backave a respect from her she knows you well and she is so sure you will not make a life without her ...just becareful do not play with something that it is so delicate as marriage...she did not care about it so here are the concecuences if you love her and want to be with her do not take her back just like that ...start dating with her again.....she must see hurt you can be and she would think it twice before she does something.....ask her out like you guys were never married start over if you want good luck
2006-09-18 02:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself and your wife to some good marriage counseling with someone that has experience with internet infidelity.
if there is love, the trust can be rebuilt...but it will take a lot of hard work on everyone's part, not just hers.
there was something lacking in your relationship with her, or she would not have sought out something else...but that's no excuse for infedelity.
Good Luck!
2006-09-18 02:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel you should take this chance to do all the things you always wish you would have done. This happened for a reason. In love there should never be any doubts...never. Yes love does hurt, but it is so you can appreciate it when good love comes around.
2006-09-18 02:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE:is what you give to another than urself usually u get nothing in return but still do it because for the benefit of the other person.Sacrificing yourself for the benefit of the other willingly.
LUST:GET WHAT U DESIRE.DO SOMETHING THAT U WANT TO DO.
use these 2 words to judge her yourself if you love her give her what she wants if you think it is worthy.If there is no desire to get back with her then....just say NO.
2006-09-18 02:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11yrs is a long time.. and people sometimes need the little romance.. its ****** up but if u let her come back. then its ur fault if that happens again
2006-09-18 02:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by rockladder2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just does.........i don't know exactly why, but it hurts like hell.......its up to you, you are the only one who can make this decision. Would you trust her again if you give her a chance? if the answer is NO, don't bother...just move on with your life. You would find somebody who would really cares for you.
2006-09-18 02:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away very far from her she is not what you want or need words of advice
always look forward never backwords
in relationships the reasons that the relationship didn't work will always be there and will one day repeat itself
2006-09-18 02:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by sweetone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's gonna keep doing it... but if u find u cant bare without her, then not going back with her is gonna hurt more.....
2006-09-18 02:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋