ok, myt sons dad raped my neice she is 14. he is on his way to prison for this. turned my family, life upside down. but he calls now, from jail, they get callin cards now, and i talk to him. feel weird, but i sill love him, not love like a relationship, but we got a kid. plus his family didnt do nothing. so i let them see our son, turns out he sees his dad sometimes, in jail. they just stoppped that visiting of children by sex alleged offenders so not any more can he se ehis son. some in my family are mad cause i dont tell that i talk to him very seldom do we talk, but i dont bring up the crime now so they think i forgive him or something should i cut him off, or keep that line open for my sons sake.....?
sorry for the typos
2006-09-17 18:53:59 · 8 answers · asked by C T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, i dont love him like want to be with him lets get that right, i realize this was my real out, i am out that, but love him as a human and my first love
2006-09-17 19:09:11 · update #1
he is still the father of your son... he has his rights as the biological father. and yes, blind as you may be, love is so strong for you... question remains, does he love you? for if he does, why did he commit that crime of rape? weigh your reasons with logic, not instincts... are you better off with him or without him? whichever way it is, it's yours to decide... i can tell you to avoid him, but allow him to see his son. but would it be reasonable enough for you, right? i can tell you to accpet him back, your love is strong and the definition of love has been proven - loving someone regardless of who or what or why there are- .... but would it be fair to your family who supported you? wiegh which best suits your reason. face any challenge, for there is a price for every thing we do. and that is where we will learn...
2006-09-17 19:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by VeRDuGo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He raped your niece who is 14? And you still love him? Yours must be a real strong love that can accept the rape of a young girl as nothing. What would you have done if it was your daughter, would you forgiven him. What is he going to teach your son that you cannot - how to get under someone's skirt?
His crime is wrong and there is no excuse for such behaviour and you should educate your son as such and when he is older, let him choose if he wants to keep in touch with his father. From where I stand, outside the circle, your son is much better off without him in his life. Nothing makes rape acceptable - NOTHING. He has totally ruined your niece's life, she is emotionally scarred, for life. Nothing will make this right.
Well that is what I think, however, at the end of the day, what only matters is what you think and what you can live with!!
2006-09-17 19:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by aew2004 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he would rape your niece or anybody else for that matter u need to get u and your son away from this man. what good can he teach your son? to rape someone when he is older or child molesting is ok? thank the lord the law is stepping in to keep your son away from him cause you are making some incredibly bad choices as a parent.
start thinking of your son first. not oh i still care for him. he should make u sick to talk to.
2006-09-17 19:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a question only you can answer. That's a real tough one. My gf's daughter, who is 9, was molested by her sister's hubby(the uncle), and she doesn't allow any of her kids to have any contact with them anymore. It's really a shame that children have to be betrayed by their loved ones like that.
Your son may or may not understand, but in time he will. Your son didn't do anything wrong, so cutting off contact with his dad may not be the best for him. You might let him write to him or let him talk to your ex on the phone. But there is no reason you have to talk to him if you don't want to.
Good luck with that.
2006-09-17 19:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by RangerBob 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you must , if he has promised and repenting his action and now paying back for his crime , pl do help him to become a normal human again by emotional support ,like talking to him . Good luck .
2006-09-17 19:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a sad "story".... y did yr hubby did tat? I guess oni he know y.....r u still married to him or u alrdy sepearated? Personally i feel tat no matter wat the adults hv done hv ntg to do with the poor child...no matter how he is stil his father n u cant just stop him to b his son.... let them hv the contact...i believe one day wen yr son is old enough to realise wat his dad hv done...then tat up to him to decide. He may b a rapist but stil he is yr husband n yr child dad so it nt up to any1 to tell u wat to do....just fellow yr heart... all the best to u n yr son....take care!
2006-09-17 19:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by D@ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL THIS IS KINDA HARD BUT I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STILL TALK TO HIM I KNOW HE DID A BAD THING BUT YOU'VE GOT TO FORGIVE HIM SOMEDAY LIEK DONT BLOW HIM OFF HE STILL YOUR SONS DAD AND YOUR SON SHOULD STILL BE ABLE TO TALK TO HIM YA KNOW BUT NOT SEE HIM
2006-09-17 19:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.sl33py 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u should talk
2006-09-17 18:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by hisahito 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋