when a person is extremely critical?

Question

of others what is the problem. jealously, insecurity, low self esteem all of the above or something else?

Answer 1

In my opinion...All of the above. You might add narcissistic, angry, arrogant, type A and so on. My brother whom I love dearly is all of the above.

Answer 2

Sometimes it can be envy (the person who sees someone who is better in any number of ways than the person, himself, is may want to take the other person "down a peg").

Sometimes it could, I suppose, be low self-esteem; and by tearing the other person down it may make someone feel better.

Insecurity could make a person be critical of someone else because if the other person likes pink and the critical person likes blue, the critical person may believe that only one can be right. He may need to be right, so he'll say that liking pink is wrong.

Another thing, though, is that very critical people often have far egos that are too big. They're too sure of themselves too. They're so sure that they're smarter or otherwise better than everyone else they feed their inflated ego by putting other people down. They not only have big egos, but they know how to keep feeding those egos. They need to be Number 1. They need to be the nicest, the smartest, the most whatever-ist; but they also need to make sure other people are kept in a less-than-equal place. There's where the criticism comes in. It both establishes that someone else is not as good or as smart or as whatever else, but then it also established the cricized person as inferior.

Also, some people actually appoint themselves parents of someone else, no matter how old the someone else is. They actually believe that there ideas are better about how the other person should do things (dress, manage finances, date, raise children, drive a car, etc.) and that if they can talk the other person into doing things their "better" way that other person will be better off. In other words, they want the other person to be like them. Its a form of half-baked love that doesn't include the admiration and respect real love is supposed to have.

Answer 3

Well, if by critical you mean insulting others and pointing out all their fallacies for no apparent reason, then that could be any number of things. Part of it may have to do with a certain control factor and a certain lack of self-understanding, so by defining everyone else and pointing out how crappy they are the person can find some sort of identity.

I'm a very critical person, but it's more from an evaluative standpoint, and once I know the intricacies of someone I strive to bring out the strong parts in someone and find ways to slowly improve their weaknesses. Abusing the ability to deeply observe and understand can be extremely destructive to the one passing out the judgement and those around him.

Answer 4

Critical people judge harshly in others what they most dislike in themselves. It's called projection: projecting onto someone else what bothers you about yourself, but what you won't even admit to yourself. I think when people do this, they don't even know how much it reveals about how insecure (like you said) they really are. If they can put the criticism on you, they never have to try to deal with what really bugs them inside. They think they appear superior, but they are cover ing up low self esteem....you already had the answer!

Answer 5

I would think it is all of the above -and then some .Overly critical people generally have an all around bad attitude . A nasty comment about everything and everyone , whether they know them or not. For whatever the reason , I think it gets to be a habit they can't break .

Answer 6

As a fellow dressmaker (which i assume you're out of your question) I comprehend your rigidity, although undergo in concepts those everyone seems to be paying you to do besides the fact that they ask so no count how serious they are...purely think of of all the $$$ coming your way....in spite of each thing, in the event that they prefer to spend greater money to vamp the positioning up slightly...then dude i'd be singing praises. in case you purely can not stand to artwork with this actual shopper, possibly you could refer them someplace else. solid success.

Answer 7

avoiding their own life. criticizing how someone else lives distracts from our own reality. living with someone in constant pain, you have to adapt to the redirection of their pain. focus on something other than the pain.

Answer 8

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