Ok, I'm 16 for those of you who have never read my other questions. I need some help. What can I do to help my 19 yr old brother??? He has a daughter who is only a few months old and her mother took her but shes a horrible mother! and he's having a really hard time. and on top of that my whole family is moving all over the country so he has nobody living near him to help him anymore. He's not the type to deal with that. IS THERE ANYTHING AT ALL I CAN DO TO HELP HIM???? I love him a lot and hate seeing him go through this and i also want to help him get his baby back. Can I help??? And How???
2006-09-17 18:34:04 · 19 answers · asked by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ok, maybe I wasn't clear. My brother doesn't have her. Her mother does. I want to help my brother get her back. Not only because I want my neice back but because her mother never wanted her and she's a horrible mother and desn't know what she's doing. How can I help him get her back?????
2006-09-17 18:49:34 · update #1
Ok, one last time. She's a horrible mother. Doesn't know what she's doing adn doesn't love the kid. He has a lawer and everything else. I want to know not what I can do to help him get his baby back, But what I can do to help him deal with this and with the fact that there's no one close to him anymore. He CAN"T deal with no one being close to him and I know right now he feels abandoned pretty much. Now can I get some answers please???
2006-09-17 18:53:22 · update #2
Well, unfortunately, unless he can prove to the courts that she is an unfit mother (like if she is using drugs, or abusing the baby) a judge is not likely to take the child away from it's mother. He CAN, however, take her to court to make sure he gets court-ordered visitations.
2006-09-17 18:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For one thing...you can't do anything but be there for your brother...I agree with everyone that you should seek help but with him... make sure he knows what kind of help your seeking and if he agrees to it because it's his life your changing...make sure that he wants it changed...you may not know everything that went on with him and the mother of his baby...for him to be a father he should know that he has someone he needs to take care of and will need him too...just a tip...when you love someone and find that person in a tight situation...the first thing you would do is find a way to help and that's normal we all want to help...but this could also be a bad thing...you don't know the whole story...so all you can do is be there for him let him know that if he needs anything he can call on you...just be careful on the things you get into when it involves a child...hope this helps you take care and god bless.
2006-09-18 02:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by dod civi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he can start by filing for custody and documenting all the bad things she does. Then he'll get a court date and it'll go from there. There isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do other than be supportive and help him through this. If he does get custody maybe he can move closer to you guys and you can help care for your neice when he has to work, or when he just needs a break. Other than that, I'm afraid there isn't anything you can do. Hope things work out. Good luck.
2006-09-18 01:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if the mom is bad, call child protective services in her town and report the specific type of abuse and neglect - many times this can by done anonymously. if they take the baby away from her your brother may have a better chance. is he stable. does he have a long term, good paying job? does he have a stable, reliable living situation? is he in a long term relationship or just has gfs in & out? your brother's character counts. his attorney should be able to advise. as for you be supportive and encouraging.
2006-09-18 12:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot for a 16yr old to comprehend...the consequences of ones actions...Actions do speak louder than words....PRAY for your brother to receive the strength and courage to at least do his part to see that the child is cared for properly....Social services is a GREAT start...THEY CAN ...AND WILL...address all issues that need addressing to ensure the welfare of the child...your brother is the father and it is "his responsibility" to see that matters are taken care of and handled appropriately .All you can do is be there to support him as often as you can...encouraging him to NOT wait...but act on his concerns...THIS child has NO defense other than "true" concern from the parent(s) to do what is necessary to provide care properly...filing for custody IS A START...encourage him to follow through...and my hats off to you for being an advocate for your nieces best interest...Prayer "WORKS"...feel the hug......He is NOT ALONE...He just needs to be aware of WHO IS THERE...
2006-09-18 02:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by smybznz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should apply for custody of his baby girl if that is what he wants. There are lots of support groups that will help him as a single parent. Your niece is a really lucky little girl for having a caring aunty. hope things work out for your family
2006-09-18 10:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very sweet, but there's really not much you can do except be supportive to your brother. It's not up to you to fix this. I know it's frustrating to have to watch someone you love go through trying situations, but sometimes they just have to go through it. Your brother is lucky to have a sister who cares so much. Have you told him how concerned you are and how much he means to you?
2006-09-18 01:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
was he legally married to the mother? or at least listed on the birth certificate as the father, if so then he can do this through the legal system, if not, there really is little he can do at all.
2006-09-18 01:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is contact DCFS. I know they sometimes have a bad reputation, but they also help alot of people in situtions.
2006-09-18 05:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by THE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow tuff situation,,,i guess its time for your brother to stand a be a man and take care of his child, theres a lot of help out there for him get him in touch withh the local dept of social services
2006-09-18 01:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋