my husband and i have been together for eight years. we dont have problems with sex, but we fill like we have pretty much done everything together. we need to try something new. so i was just wandering if anyone had any ideas for us. thanks so much, please no bu!!$hit answers!
2006-09-17 18:11:58 · 18 answers · asked by "big dogs wife" 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i guess saying we did everything was wrong, just please give us some ideas.
2006-09-17 18:30:02 · update #1
Blindfold him, tie him to the bed, invite over some really hot guy from the neighborhood. Remove his blindfold and say SURPRISE HONEY!!!!
2006-09-17 19:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that feeling. Every once in a while i might buy a magazine like "Cosmo" because it boasts about all the new or different ideas, but it turns out most of them are old news to us. Try revisiting some of the things you've done in the past. Maybe even add a twist to it. Lately the only time we've had for it was after the baby went to bed, and we would do it in(and after) the shower. But that started getting mundane quick. Then we tried a "lights out" shower. Sometimes the simplest things add a lot to the experience. If you want to, email me thru my profile, and i'll see if i can give you ideas on how to build on what you already found for yourselves.
2006-09-18 01:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good to hear that your marriage is good. Keep it up. As for new ideas, perhaps you can go to the bookshops and look for books on the topic, that would be best. I once had a book put together by Reader's Digest on sex and marriage and it was good, perhaps you can email or write to them and ask about the book.
What I honestly think is that, if as you say, you have tried everything, just remember that, in a marriage, you can and must always be hones with each other. Ask each other what you can do to make it better and I am sure you will find the answer, as you are coming together in love not lust.
2006-09-18 01:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by aew2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my wife for eight years and just being in the same bed is still exciting-- no games, but long lasting touching, feeling, huggy , kissy, togetherness- we try to do different ways every 15 mins or so and all ways are great -- just love being there
2006-09-18 12:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try going out to dinner or anywhere together. While driving
take the long way home and go "parking." This is very exciting after being married awhile. Also, surprise your husband while driving down the highway, not with other cars around, take your
shirt off! This is very exciting and my husband loved this.
2006-09-18 03:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you know there are "languages of love" other than sex or physical touch. His and your "love tank" may need filling with the other four love languages. Gary Chapman wrote "The Five Love Languages" and its worth reading. The men's version is written for men but can be read by women even though he has great advice for women in their version too!
2006-09-18 01:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you explore other activities other than sex such as a sport or hobby, preferably competative ones. This will increase your interest to your spouse because he/she will intend to show a different side when they're doing something out of the box. Can't help you if he/she ends up showing a bad side but at least you'll feel a renewed thrill when having sex with them after.
2006-09-18 01:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try those "fantasy rooms" at hotels or nicer bed & breakfasts. Have you read the "Kama Sutra"? (Indian sex book? Very helpful and graphic.) Also, at more 'mature' adult bookstores, some will have books for married people, more than the typical x-rated bookstore stuff.
It's quite possible that you have "done it all" with the hubby, though.
2006-09-18 01:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A sporting actvities together on a regular basis say Golf.
Also engaging in some kind of hobby say serious
photography or some musicial instrument playing.
2006-09-18 01:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by nomad 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
list out interests of each one.. see what all are common and develop the same together...
Develop indiviual interest and add creativity in that and spent time individually..
Give space in relationship..
GO for vacation just two of you or long drive..
Many things can be done if love is bubbling inside your heart
2006-09-18 01:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by m_cyberfriend 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋