feeling frustrated with husband and weight?

Question

lately my husband has been so concerned on me losing weight he wants me to lose 15 pds then he said i'll be perfect,at first i said sure but everyday he has some kind of coment to say about something on my body wether it's my weight or what i'm wearing.i'm getting really pissed off and feeling to frustrated to begin a program to lose weight because of his commets the funny thing is he's the one who's truly overweight i should be telling him to lose weight not him telling me!when i tried to make that point to him today he just walked away.i don't understand him he's trippin anyone have any advice to how i can get myself to klose weight for me and not him,i reaally need motivotion no cruel comments please thanks

Answer 1

Try taking walks every day,thats what I do to keep my weight down and drink lots of water so you wont eat as much as without water. keep busy all day,cleaning or whatever you do,it helps me keep my weight down. fix yourself up some so you can feel good about yourself too. Im sorry that he does this to you some men can be so cruel instead of loving and helping you.

Answer 2

I hate to say this, but my first husband never said anything negative about my weight until he started cheating on me. Of course, I didn't find out he was cheating till later - but now, I think the reason he did it, was to justify himself. "I have to cheat on her because she's fat and unattractive" or something like that.

So if you have always been around your current weight and he has just suddenly decided to get picky, something else has happened. Maybe he's not cheating, but something's different.

If you've just recently gained weight (and so there's a reason for him suddenly nagging), then that's different. I do understand how you feel: when someone is constantly harping on about your weight, it actually makes you LESS able to stick to a diet, not more. Feeling depressed just makes you want to eat.

Get on the internet and find some ideal weight tables. Look up your ideal weight AND your husband's ideal weight. Calculate how many pounds you are overweight and how many pounds he is overweight. I'm hoping that will prove that he's worse than you!

Then put the statistics in front of him when he sits down at the dinner table (so he can't walk away unless he wants to leave his meal). Tell him you agree that you need to lose weight, but that he needs to lose weight too, and suggest that you do it together.

Until you get this resolved, remember that doing a little is better than doing nothing at all. For instance, start buying skim milk instead of full cream (if he complains, tell him to go buy his own). Try to do some walking - get yourself a pedometer and wear it, then try to do an extra 100 steps each day.

Answer 3

You need to be firm and strong with him and do not allow him to do this to you, and make you get so frustrated and mad,

You need to have him weigh himself and you together and show him a chart of what his weight should be for his height, once that is established then (do that yourself and put it in writing), unless he is willing to do this, tell him he is not allowed to pressure you or tell you to lose weight unless he is right where you are, tell him it's unfair and you are not the one with the real problem he is and this is causing you to stress out. tell him to exercise.

And yes he should be practicing what he is preaching, judging you is not the answer, he needs to focus on himself and his personal goals, instead of being critical to others. Just tell him very directly. He is your husband right?

Answer 4

Tell him that u will lose the weight only when he does too. He shouldn't preach what he can't practice himself. With that said, find some physical activities u both can enjoy and stick with it for the long haul, along with proper diet.

Answer 5

Hey fair is fair Strike a bargain with him. You will lose if he does. Either he'll back off or you two can actually 'compete' competition, now that is motivation! How about a side bet, you know 1st one to 15lbs. gets???

Answer 6

Nothing uncommon. Most of the problem solving
strings is in your hands. Be brave and apply your
strength of mind over your body, most of your
problem will vanish.

Answer 7

He has seen someone who caught his eye and he is second guessing your marriage. This is not about your weight. This is about him and his issues with you and your marriage. You should be communicating more and there should be no secrets. He should not be so concerned with your weight. 15 pounds is not going to make such a difference and make you perfect. There is another issue and you should be concerned.

Answer 8

girlfriend count to five and ignore him do ur thing, lose ur weight or dont, if ur happy screw him. good luck!