would you be concerned if your husband has a myspace profile that he keeps secret? Or am i being oldfashioned?

Question

ok so i took jamie t's advice and i made a fake myspace with a fake name and pic and he added me as a friend! he says "women are his weekness"! what should i do?

Answer 1

If he keeps it secret ... There is a reason ... I would find a keylogger to download ... That way you could figure out his password and check on it ...

Answer 2

I've heard of this so many times it's almost funny. But each case is different. Not everyone (*gasp*) uses myspace to hook up with other people for sexual relationships. Heck, my PARENTS both wanted me to set them up with a myspace account.

Perhaps he uses it (like some guys I know) to reconnect with old buddies. In this case it's fairly harmless.

Or perhaps he uses it to chat online and then meet people behind your back to have affairs. If this is the case, I'd be surprised if you didn't know about this sort of behavior, but don't go rushing off to judgment without knowing for sure!

Or perhaps he's simply trying to make new online friends (both male and female) and becoming a citizen of the 21st century where we all seem to have myspace (or some other space) profiles. He may not be trying to actually meet other women but just connect to new friends in cyberspace. In this case it's relatively harmless as well.

The best course of action is, of course, to ask him about his online activities, and to talk openly and honestly about cheating -- assuming you're both up to such a conversation. The sly (and certainly not new) approach is to create your own myspace profile, add him as a friend, and then start chatting. You'll see right away what his intentions are.

Answer 3

I WOULD BE. I even checked my bf's email and (ex)friendster account. He lets me because he have no secrets, which is okay. But trust me, girls nowadays are so wilddddddddddd. You canot believe the amt of girls who actually approaches guy through the net! Anyway!!!!! If he have nothing to hide, I dont see why he have to keep a secret.

you making and acc and chatting with him is fun, but a very dangerous action. This is meticulous plan that you have to be really smart abt. if you guys are sharing a computer, always remember to log out and sometimes the computer saves the email add when you go to myspace page......

Did you think of what you would do, if relaly, your husband turned out to be cheating on you?

Answer 4

Now with me... heres the deal.. I have the computer and my husband doesnt like the internet. he says it causes marital problems. But then heres the deal.. I sit down with him every so often and I make him watch me on the computer I let him see and read thru both of the web spaces I use.. Yahoo 360 and My Space. He reads everything and he knows who I talk to and pretty much what I talk about I dont keep things from him as I know if I do in any way he will see it as an infidelity of some sort.
I dont like the way he feels about the internet as when he wasnt me to find something on here for him or he wants to read something on here he doesnt see it as the devil.. if you know what I mean.
So yes in answer to your question I would be concerned. If the situations were reversed wouldnt you think he would be concerned??

Answer 5

Let him be.

It's not old-fashioned, it's common sense.

He's not going to hook up with anybody, he might be exploring (which could be a concern) but, in all, that is pretty tame.

It'd be worse if you confronted him and he felt you were spying on him and trying to make him hold up to your standard.

The real question is: what is he looking for and why is it not in your bedroom? Something is missing for him and I'd posit that you are not delivering. Harsh words, I know -- but it's theoretical at best.

Understanding your man is key -- men are easy to figure out if you are willing to meet his needs.

Reading over the other answers, I'm pretty upset the number of women who think it should be their business, who'd confront, who'd make it an issue. Self-centered women at best, I am glad I am far away from them!

Answer 6

His motivations for keeping it a secret is what u should be concerned about. Obviously there are reasons such as privacy but if his intentions are to hide something from u because he doesn't want to get "found out" about something, then it's a problem. Find out what it is.

Answer 7

Let me ask you a question? do you hide anything? Doesn't mean it's a secret.. but you want to keep it safe, or hidden from delicate eyes or from pets or for safe keeping until a later time. Everyone has personal space around them, why not for their stuff and their thoughts. Who complains about diaries?
Ask him about the site, maybe he will show you. Ask him about it if he won't... maybe he's worried at work and he is just venting?! True, it might be worse, but it also might be... not. Go ask.

Answer 8

If he is hiding the profile then he is hiding more. Hopefully his indiscretions are limited to myspace--I've known of men that like to chat with women online but chicken out if it is ever time to meet them.
You could "chat" with him through myspace to investigate, but you should be prepared for that to backfire and him to make himself out to be the victim if you do. I do recommend you follow some of the other advice given here and try to find out more though.

good luck to you!!

Answer 9

Yes..you should be concerned. My ex did the exactly same thing, after a couple of months, i got a hold of his password and he was arranging to meet people on the net. Just confront him or kick him to the curve.

Answer 10

You betcha' I'd be alittle more than "concerned." You need to view this secret profile of his and find out why he's hidden it from you. There's nothing old fashioned about all the sick stuff that goes on in "cyberworld" and you need to keep w/the times and search, conquer and destroy woman!

Answer 11

If it's a secret & you are not ALLOWED to see it, thats unecseptable. My 22 yr old daughter said her best friend's boy friend was doing that to her & she thinks her friend is crazy for still wanting to marry him. She told her own boyfriend "If you ever do that to me I'll cut off your testicals." I'd ask him if he would think it was OK for you to do the same thing & see how he likes it.