I am just feeling really depressed and like I have so many restraints on me. I have a tight schedule and it seems like no one cares or respects me. I have a lot on my plate and there are simple things people could do that would just make my life feel a little bit better each day. I feel the worst probably when I am driving. Everyone has such a selfish attitude while driving and are always cutting me off, honking and just driving like assholes. People are always getting into accidents because they just have to make the light even though its red. Why is everyone in such a rush and why can't the world slow down a bit so I can catch up with it?
2006-09-17 17:46:47 · 12 answers · asked by cutie pie 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I handle the pressure by knowing that everything eventually works itself out. Haven't you noticed that? No matter how stressful the situation is, it gets resolved. Ever think back to high school about how u worried and stressed about things so stupid or things so beyond your control? Traffic will always be there no matter what. Idiot drivers will be there everyday to give u the finger, but why let it bother u? Why waste time stressing? Smile in return and just laugh at how they're going to get a ticket soon. I remember this crazy woman that was swerving around the road, signaling to the right, then turning left. Ha ha. Now I laugh about it. I bet she has 5 tickets by now. Remember in high school when you used to worrry about tests? Just study for it as much as u can and whatever happens happens. What we should value the most is our friends and family. Even if they suck sometimes, they choose to be there. We must value our connections with the ones we have.
Also, the best way to feel good about urself is to do something nice for other ppl. Sure drivers are crazy, but when you stop to cross the street, don't u notice that most drivers will smile and give u the signal to go ahead and cross the street instead of driving right through?
The world won't slow down, but we can make it a little big more enjoyable. I know it takes more work to be nice to ppl, but if you keep at it, they'll be nice to u in return. Remember to have at least a half hour to yourself everyday to play or relax.
Additionally, cut out the ppl that are not important to u. If they ask for favors, politely refuse. Remember that there are lot of things we waste time on. Find what yours is and stop doing it. Time management is key. Use an agenda, plan out ur day, write lists of things that need to be done daily/weekly/monthly/yearly. Be organized. It will save your life.
So you have a bad roomate. Who doesn't? You probably have a good friend somewhere too hmm? Or there are at least nice random ppl u meet. Remember them or remember nice things u see that give u peace. The other day I saw a really small old couple holding hands and walking in the park. It was so sweet.
Life will work out eventually. There are always bumps in the road, but wouldn't you rather have it hard knowing that you're turning into an independent tough person than have it easy and rot your brain out?
You know that song by Sum 41? "Everybody's got their problems. Everybody's got the same things you do. It's just a matter how you solve them." I'm in college too. Good luck.
2006-09-17 17:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by bebeeangeldust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are feeling stressed and overcommitted at this time. The world is not going to slow down, so you just have to find ways to remove some stress from your life. College is very important right now, you do not need the demands of a boyfriend, so slow that relationship down. If you have friends that are driving you crazy limit the time you spend with them. Go to the school administration, if you are in the dorms; and request a room change or a roommate change. If you are having a tough time with your parents right now, it is probably because they are worried about you. Cut back the communication as much as possible, just be too busy, have class, and have to study. You need to find a few moments of quiet time for yourself, to go for a walk, take a yoga class, exercise. Be very careful about driving when you are upset, that could be extremely dangerous for yourself and others. Stand up for yourself and cut this all back so that you have time to breathe. If your course load is too much, cut out a class or two, so that you are not so overwhelmed. College can be a great experience, but if you are stressed and burning out you will not complete the year to the best of your ability. You can also check with you student adviser and see if you can get some counseling for the depression. It is difficult to be away from home, and having all these new factors pulling you in all directions at once. Please, slow down, take a deep breathe and get some help and time for yourself. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-18 01:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the EXACT same way. Just know that after all the things you're enduring now, the end of the road will be better. There's always a struggle when you try to do things the right way...it always seems like the people who lie, cheat, and steal their way through life have things easier. We live in a selfish world, it's that simple. Just don't let it discourage you and keep you down. things will get better (easier said than done). Before I go out and face the world every morning I think how things could be worse...I could be dying from a terminal disease, I could be handicapped, I could be one of those people who lost everything and everyone to Katrina or the Tsunami...think of what you have as opposed to what you don't and you'll feel a bit better as well.
Good Luck.
2006-09-18 00:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are experiencing a normal problem. For many people college is the first experience of being away from their parents and meeting different people from different cities and maybe even different social classes. Many people expect certain things to happen when they attend college and are surprised when it is nothing like their notions. You are in control of your experience. If you want to do well then you have to make your schedule a successful one. You have to take time out for studying, exercising and sleeping. If you do not sleep you will not retain new information as well. In most colleges classes are at a quicker pace than high school. You brain will store the information much better after you get 8 hours of sleep. Exercise also releases stress and will help you focus on your studies much better. Do not forget to eat well. If you eat poorly then your body will not have the proper fuel to get you through the day. Maybe you should make a list of goals that you want to accomplish. This should help you "keep your eye on the prize." Maybe you could befriend some older students. They may be able to help you prioritize and give you tips on how to succeed. That was how I got through my first year in college. Once you have your goals in place everything else will follow. As for the boyfriend...if he loves you he will allow you to have some space. If he does not then you are better off without him. Maybe you can find a better guy in class. That happens a lot as well.
2006-09-18 01:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by emma5280 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
college...concentrate on!!! finish!!! it will be worth it!!! college is hard work and requires lots of EFFORT!!! your friends...hopefully in school too? well if they are they understand if you guys don't talk in forever cuz they're probably going through the same thing...im sorry to say you might have to drop your boyfriend and tell him whats going on...your parents who cares...your an adult now...they will be there when you need something...and when you drive...just don't worry about the other people...you just drive yourself and get there safely...you know how many car accidents everyday? a lot lets just say...be greatfull everyday that your alive and you get to do what you do...and make the little things count for yourself...being able to enjoy and cold soda on a hot day...it'll make you feel better...and smile in the mirror for two minutes when you wake up...smile until you start to giggle...i know this sounds like some wacko is giving you this advice...but i was in your spot...and once in awhile go buy yourself something new...a new shirt or jacket some new jeans...make the little things count and you'll be happier...like those kids at the supermarket when they get a quarter they can buy a lil toy and look how happy they get
2006-09-18 01:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by kawika712 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are in the same boat as i am in right now: i have tests, projects, midterms, quizzes,a relationship, family, myself to take care of and to make sure that i am caught up to date on each assignment in each class. the thing is that the world will not slow down not for you nor me and do not take this the wrong way but things change, you have to grow up and to make decisions, to mess up, pull your life together, try again and so forth. what i am trying to say is that maybe you are experiencing life on your own for the first time and it is a rough world out there but you cannot just get depressed-do something like listen to music, homework, and work out to keep yourself from being preoccupied. if you fill each moment of the day with something to do yet you also enjoy life along the way you are okay. i guess that you are almost there.dont give up because no one will cut you any slack, peopel will act like jerks, no one cares about you and your life and only you know what goes on in there. no teacher cares that you are taking 6 classes and 17 credit hours, nor that you have personal problems. this is going to be a hard transitions but the best advice that i have learned is to go with the flow and enjoy each day to the fullest.
2006-09-18 01:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breathe and calm yourself. I'm in college also and I have to deal with the same pressures, minus roomate (got my own room). Have you considered going to see a counselor there? I do and it helps. You need to tell people to back off on you some. Let them know you can't take all the pressure.
2006-09-18 00:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down and just breath. You are on over load and need to lighten up. Take time for a bubble bath or a walk something to decompress.
2006-09-18 00:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may half to cut out your social life (just for a little while) and just focus on what YOU need. A boyfriend can be a huge burden at this point in your life, and you don't need one anyway. Same thing with friends.
2006-09-18 00:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by k10sbride 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey, you have just entered adult reality. Sorry, the rose-colored glasses are no longer effective. Toughen up and get used to it.
2006-09-18 00:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by MaqAtak 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋