I'm in my school's band and i play the clarinet. in class my friend said to my another friend that she can hardly play the school song(she also a clainet player) the anoter friend said well atleast you can play it better than a 10th clarinet player and my friend said my name. my sister found out and told me. it made me cry i thought she was my friend. at the pep band game i was mad at her. she tried to talk to me but i didn't want to talk to her. at school monday she wanted to know what i was mad at her for and i told her. then she said that she never said that. she'd lied to me in the past so i don't know if i should believe her. what should i do ?????? please help me!!
2006-09-17 17:27:58 · 13 answers · asked by danni_doodlebop09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a simple philosophy when it comes to liars, if they lie to me once then they are not a freind, what will stop them from doing it again and how will you know if they are doing it again, its easier to find a new freind then to try to figure out if the one tells you lies all the time.
2006-09-17 17:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that's not nice what they did. but can you really play the school song? if not, don't be mad. because it's the truth. and the truth hurts all the time.
DO YOU WANT REVENGE? then learn to play the school song perfectly! it's obvious they think you suck at playing the clarinet. and the best way to get back at them is to prove that you CAN do it.
look at dwyane wade of the miami heat. the dallas mavericks said he couldn't shoot from the outside. so what did he do? he shot the lights out from the outside & inside. leading his team to the championship.
if you just sulk up and be angry at them for what they did. you will forever be a so-so clarinet player. and you know what? THEY ARE RIGHT.
2006-09-17 17:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was part of a question. I wouldn't let something that may be trivial become a bigger problem. She might be trying to fit in with another group this way. Save it for the future. Many are two faced or use bad judgments for discussion about others. She should have elaborated more about how and why she said this. We all say dumb things we regret from time to time uno.They may have been talking about someone else entirely and your name came up as a possibility.
2006-09-17 17:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about your own clarinet playing? Are you happy being in the band?
Maybe this other friend is jealous, maybe she was just having a grumpy day. I the grand scheme of things, it won't matter even though right now I know it hurts.
Obviously the band leader thinks you are doing a good job, other wise you wouldn't be in the bad, right? So play yourheart out and be proud of yourself.
2006-09-17 17:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what other people tell you. If the person in question said they didn't say anything, you have to take them at face value. If you cant, they are not worth hanging around, as liars are never friends. So you have to make a decision, either trust her as a friend, or don't trust her and just make her like everyone else, an acquaintance. I know this might sound insensitive, but I just get to the blunt truth quickly.
2006-09-17 17:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, well the best you can do is take her word for it. If she says she didn't say it, then give her the benefit of the doubt. You'll find that most people lie and the best you can do is take what they say with a grain of salt. Besides, she doesn't want to fight about it and neither should you. You don't need any added drama in your life, especially not over something so petty.
2006-09-17 17:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Rissa406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe my sister over my friend. I mean I know she is your friend. But you are in school still, and people in high school are childish. Just get over it, and be her friend. If you hear a lie from her again. Then stop talking to her. You dont need someone ( a "friend") who is going to talk about you and bring you down!!! GL!!!!!!!
2006-09-17 17:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a second chance... read the eulogy of a dog poem and you will understand what friends are for.. u can trust her again if u want to but if u dont want to, its ur option.. what im trying to say is that in this world, its better not to trust anyone to aviod hurting yourself..
2006-09-17 17:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her. She knows what she did but she's to prideful to admit it. She also sounds like a pathological, two-faced liar. You don't need those people in your life, they're not your true friends.
2006-09-17 17:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well of course shes not going to admit she said it but if shes lied to you before she probably did this time too...just explain to her that you know she said it and it really hurt your feelings and she shouldnt have said anything so mean about you. if shes really your friend she will apologize
2006-09-17 17:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋