i value everyone's opinion, btu if you WERE actually adopted pls. tell me that too.
P.S. Please don't tell me "you need to decide for yourself" cause it's not me and i'm asking YOU what YOU would do.
2006-09-17 17:27:54 · 13 answers · asked by downtown girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"what could it hurt?" well, one thing i know, nobody likes to cry, so it COULD hurt quite a lot......
2006-09-17 17:33:48 · update #1
Yes. Definitely. I would think you would really want to see your birth mother. Ask about health, and father also, so you will know what illnesses may be hereditary.
2006-09-17 17:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by DallasGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would. i never understood why People had huge animosity towards birth mothers in this situation. People make mistakes all the time, and the result was an unplanned pregnancy. knowing she couldn't mentally, emotionally or financially care for the baby she did something responsible and put the baby in a home where he or she can be loved and raised with things she couldn't give. in this day and age, so many ppl can easily get an abortion, but she chose to give birth and give the baby a chance, which I'm sure wasn't the easiest thing for her to do. so if years later she wants to see what has become of the child she bore years ago i think the child shouldn't deny her.
the exception however is if the mother discarded the baby in a bag or some crazy ish like that then of course the mom is a nut and deserves to be hit by a bus.
so to answer your question I'd go to meet my birth mother. it might fill in blanks, i might meet my siblings, nieces and nephews, and might get some important medical information. it's important to know if any hereditary issues are present, also see if you look like her lol.
2006-09-17 17:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if I was adopted, I would want to meet my birthmother. Even though I would most likely have a good relationship with my adopted family, it would be important to me to get to know my birthmother. I would like to know how much like her I was, and also the family history and health background. These things would be especially important if I had children, especially the medical history. You can get many varying opinions on here; but it is one of the decisions in life that each person will have to decide in their own way. Have a good night.
2006-09-17 17:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not adopted,but I am a birthmom with a son that was given up for adoption.If I were adopted I would want to meet my birthparents.I recently found my husbands birthdaughter and now shes a big part of our lives.Even though I'm not adopted I was raised only by my mother and I never knew my dad,he doesn't even know he has a daughter,but I am still wanting to find him even though I've been calling someone else dad since I was 16.
2006-09-17 18:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by nolley68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adoptive mom - i recognize this is thoroughly organic that you would possibly want to prefer to satisfy your beginning mom. she will be in a position to respond to a lot of questions for you from - 'the position did you get your nostril?' - to 'why did she leave?' for sure i do not recognize your history yet i will allow you to recognize some issues about her. She develop into courageous adequate and loved you adequate to carry you to time period and help you to be born. and that is a huge deal! Your mothers and fathers are incorrect to call your beginning mom names. What are they questioning! do not they comprehend the outcome their frame of mind must have on you? to allow you to recognize you come back from trash and were not wanted? Agh-h-h! they are incorrect!!! you're a present. a magnificent individual with an staggering destiny earlier than you. do not enable their attitudes poison the way you spot your self. look ahead and recognize you would possibly want to be whoever you want to be. nonetheless - If I were you - i might want to prefer to discover my beginning-mom - if in basic terms out of interest. There are countless adoption registries you may check out on-line. you may record your call there and in the experience that your birthmother lists as well, they're going to tournament you up. bypass gently regardless of the reality that. Your beginning mom received't be the female of your objectives. She's probable had a tricky existence and could not even welcome listening to from you. i desire it really is not the case yet some persons are weak and do in basic terms not deal nicely with existence. And please understand that words like "trash" and "undesirable" are judgements - not info. do not enable your household's prefer to guage, substitute the guy you want to be. sturdy success.
2016-11-27 21:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by chittenden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am partially adopted (my mother is my biological mother my step father adopted my brother and i at a young age) I have absoutely no desire to meet me biological father. My adopted dad is the greatest man i know and i do not need anyone to come in and try and fill his shoes because no one can.
My mother has encouraged me to write him if i feel the need but it has rarely come up. It is frusterating not know where i got my eyes or if i got any of my personality from him but all of that means so little to me in comparison to what my dad has done for me.
2006-09-17 17:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by chairkiss_silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and see her. It helps not only for finding out where you came from and why you are where you are now. But it might also give you a chance to have her in your life again. I have known MANY people in foster care, and I haven't met one that didn't want to know why they were given up. So take the chance, it might go well, it might not, but at least you can say you made an effort.
2006-09-17 17:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would, but only if I could keep it straight in my mind the difference between the person that raised me and the person that gave birth to me.
Giving birth or being the sperm donor doesn't make someone a parent. It's making the daily committment and sacrifces to raise that child that makes someone a parent.
2006-09-17 17:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sideshow Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...and I would thank her for not getting an abortion...
I mean I am pro-chioce but hey...she had that Option, I'm sure...seriously!
Meet her..find out about where you come from...
See what you are made of...if it is less than par...then thank God for the Blessing he gave you...
Either way, it really can't hurt...
2006-09-17 17:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Skipper1974 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very thought provoking question. I think I would - if only to ask why she let me go.
I don't think I would stay in touch with her, but one meeting wouldn't be out of the question.
2006-09-17 17:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋