Hello Im 26 and have a kid and Iam a common law wife.?

Question

Anyways, I have no friends anymore due to my husbands jealous streak (going on 2 years) and I dont do much outside the house as I am a stay home mom.
The thing is I dont miss having friends (but it feels weird) and I dont want to do anything really, maybe just lie in a field and play dead. During the day Iam in mom mode but when the kids are asleep I go into weird mode. I cant explain it really.
Am I depressed or what?

I am also not in love with my man and I want out. Whenever I say that he tells me I must have someone else waiting, the truth is I dont, I just want me back.

Answer 1

I think we are all in a different mode at the end of the day.......I come into Answers to relax and get kinky.......lol...........

Answer 2

I would say that you are depressed. (however I dont understand why you mentioned that you were a common law wife.. Whether you are married to someone or just living with them, depression ca hit us all, any time, place or living arrangement) This comes from another stay at home mom, have been for ten years now.. so I know the drill. When you have a mom mode; its everything to to take care of the house and the kids and when that is done you never want to leave the house, you have no energy for anyone or anything; Honey you are depressed, you may feel lonely and hopeless. Seek medical advice right away. However if you have a computer there are millions of other ways to help yourself out of your depression. Sometimes its emotional, sometimes its medical. When you feel out of it, find something that you like to do and in your free time.... do it!!!
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Iowa
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States Permitting Certain Common Law Marriages
Georgia (if the elements were satisfied before January 1, 1997)
Idaho (if the elements were satisfied before January 1, 1996)
New Hampshire (for inheritance only)
Ohio (if the elements were satisfied before October 10, 1991)
In states which don't allow common law marriage, an unusual situation can arise - a couple which underwent what they thought was a valid, state-authorized marriage can find that their marriage was invalid. For example, a divorce may not be properly finalized before a subsequent marriage occurs, rendering that later marriage invalid. Usually, once the problem has been remedied, states will provide a remedy to correct the invalid marriage. For example, some states permit a secret wedding ceremony to be performed by a judge, with a backdated order of marriage, such that the marriage becomes valid from its inception and the rights of the spouses are protected."

Answer 3

You may be a stay-at-home mom but you could pick up some hobbies... I like sewing(Quilting, clothes mending, embriodery), or go back to school (college) on the days he doesn't work, crafting...the controlling hubby may run off friends but not likely with hobbies. Only thing jerk might do is start a fight when you try to get something done. You might look at how his parents treated him and each other as an example for why he is this way.

Answer 4

Yes dear, you are depressed. I am a work at home mom, and I don't really hang out with people anymore either. I get like that sometimes where I just would like to run away or something. As for you jealous husband.... that isn't healthy at all for the relationship or either one of you emotionally. Have you ever told him how you have been feeling lately? I would try talking to him about things. It might just help.

Answer 5

It sounds like you already know this answer. You are in a living situation in which you state you are unhappy and are not in love. Depression will not get better until you figure out what the cause is. If leaving is what you want then that is what you need to work on accomplishing. You deserve a life outside of your family. Don't settle for less!

Answer 6

I think you both need counseling for your depression. Your counselor will probably discuss your self-image and self-esteem, which most common-law wives have little of and need other outlets to improve, possibly working outside the home.
Nevertheless, not being married and having ******* children has left you and them unprotected in the event you or your "husband" decides to split. This alone could be scaring you. First, you should consider marrying your children's biological father for the kids' sake. Then, work on your "marriage" by reading Gary Chapman's "Five Love Languages." You may want to seek counseling soon!

Answer 7

I'm not a psychiatrist, but that does sound like depression. You operate well while taking care of the kids because that engages your mind, but once your time is your own, your emotions rise to the surface and can't be avoided. I think these feelings and your husband's jealous streak are things you should discuss with a counselor. Best of luck.

Answer 8

wow that's lots of work with little bennies. You have lost your ID. Its not jealous streak its insecurity and its easier to control you that way. Well I would recommend a partime job. NO joke.
When he gets home at night, then go to work that evening and on Saturdays too. The will bring in soime money(christmas is coming you know) and get you some social interaction. A reason to put on makeup and hosery and be a woman, not a housecoat or sweat pants person.

Answer 9

i to am a common law wife of six years and i am the same way i have three kids and i am always in mom mode the only conversations i have are with my six year old and like u i dont miss having friends its just that sometimes u wont to have a real intellectual conversation about something other than the cheetah girls!!! so its not that u r depressed your just bored out of your mind!!

Answer 10

You are depressed, pretty soon you won't miss any thing, including your child.
I am sorry for you, it must feel pretty sad and lonely in the evenings.
Do get in touch with people you love, besides your jealous husband.
You are too young to be wasting your life. Why is he jealous' if you are not talking to friends and don't go out? Something is missing with this picture.

Answer 11

I believe you do miss having friends, otherwise you wouldn't feel weird. You may have some kind of depression but the only way to find out is to seek counseling.