he cheated on me twice and its the same girl. i loved him but i have difficulty bringing back the trust after the last time (the last time was just this june).he's more sweet and thoughtful now but im full of doubts for him.i know i still loved him but it's the trust i cant bring back.what will i do?
2006-09-17 17:25:17 · 19 answers · asked by taray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was a full blown cheater and i learned that once a cheter always a cheater. if he did it to u not once but twice there is a third charm. fall inlove again and forget about the bastard its will be very easy as soon as you find some one but dont break it off till you find some1 love or no love you are gonna get hurt @ DA END OF THE DAY THSI IS FROM A FELLOW CHEATER. not so proud i lost alot of people that loved me
2006-09-17 17:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say this it is hard to trust someone when they have hurt you and to do it twice makes it that much harder. But you know a relationship goes both ways he has to earn your trust you should not be the only one working on the relationship. Only a few months ago he was cheating on you and he expects you to trust him just like that . I know you love him but he needs to show you that he deserves your trust
2006-09-17 17:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is serious about you, he'll go in for counseling. This isn't an end of the world situation, but unless he is willing to do some work on it should be the end of the relationship situation. If he pulls this stunt at 2 imagine 12, 22, 32.
2006-09-17 17:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's not cheating on her with you? No really, I just saw this on TV the other day when he was going with this girl for 2 yrs and come to find out that he had another girlfriend for 5 years.
2006-09-17 17:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by lcsotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't change sweetie. It's a matter of respect. He does not respect and love you enough to stop this destructive behaviour. It will destroy your soul and he may bring you home a disease too. Take your heart in your own hands, take it back from him. Hold your head up high and respect yourself. Walk away from him and go towards a new life and you will meet someone who will love you and only you.I wish you all the love and luck in the world.
2006-09-17 17:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your boyfriend isn't over his X and when he cheated once it wasn't bad enough that he hurt you deeply as he repeated what he had done. I would get a new boyfriend. I am sad for you. I wish I could say that he won't do it again but he already has. I think you deserve better only thing your getting is wasted time. Good luck!
2006-09-17 21:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can handle the fact that he has done it and at some point will proly do it to you again, then stay together. if it is a major obstacle for you then bounce. not all men will do this to you, also if he did it once and intentionally put himself back in that same situation with the same person, then i'd have a trust issue's too.
2006-09-17 17:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump Him. The same thing happened to me and you can never trust him again. Once a cheater always a cheater
2006-09-17 17:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by philbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off now. the only reason he is being so "sweet" and "thoughtful" is because you found out what he did, and he wants to keep you in his life because in real life, he knows those other girls aren't anything but booty, and he could actually have a relationship with you. it's just too bad that booty is more important to him than you are. so take my advice, break up with his sorry ***
2006-09-17 17:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by GhostBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost a major component of what a relationship should have. so its either he gains your trust back or you guys break up. and why do you want to be with someone who cheats on you?
2006-09-17 17:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by datgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋