I was with a girl whom I love for 4 years. About a year ago we broke up because she fell in love for another guy. After which I went overseas to work. But about 5 months ago, we sort of got back together and I called her almost everyday while I am still over there working. I suggest her to come over and work with me. She agreed but her parents dont allow her to come over unless I come back to fetch her there. I came back recently and things went smoothly after speaking to her parents. They agreed to let me bring her over and work over there. I even proposed to her but she rejected because she said that she's not ready yet. But 2 days back, I peeped into her email and to my horror, she booked a room and when i called she was with that guy.I was so furious that I blew up the whole matter to her family members.But I realised I wronged her after she explain to us. I have caused so much damage to the relationship and realise that i am in the wrong to check her email.What can I do to?
2006-09-17 17:19:05 · 9 answers · asked by Lim A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"to err is human, to forgive is divine". You have done your
part by saying sorry. Now the card is in her hand. Hope for the best. Good Luck,
2006-09-17 17:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Teh halia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you were wrong to check her email but maybe you have to look into how you really feel. You first broke up because she fell in love with another guy maybe you still do not trust her and maybe she was giving you reason not to trust her. You may have done damage by reading her email but she did do things behind your back and you found her with another guy. I think she is the one that needs to apologize to you not you to her. I think it is her that has to gain your trust back. But if you really feel you need to say you are sorry then you have to say it from the heart if you really mean it she will know
2006-09-18 00:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I'm sorry, two wrongs don't make a right. i wish i knew this before i got married because i could have got my ex who was my fiance some professional help. consider you self lucky. you shouldn't have brought her family into the matter. i do understand the jealousy and rage. King Solomon said that a wise man consider what he says before he says it and holds his tongue. you can't go back but try to tell her you did this in anger and want her to forgive her and you still love her. Solomon also said that a gift in private smooths a matter. so send her some flowers. when things smooth over then discuss her affair. don't marry her until you both get professionally help try your church.
2006-09-18 00:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Lonely Fatman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is bad. very badddd.....but lets see here, your goal is to get her to trust you again. You know that that can take years to do, but the best way to do is to take her out somewhere to a restaurant, sit her down, make sure she is listening, look her in the eye and apologize sincerely. tell her WHY u peeked in her email and let her know that you really DO love her and DO trust her and that it was all YOUR mistake and YOUR confusion that led u to do that. And then promise to never do it again! :) that should soften her heart to the idea of a relationship with you again. :) Good Luck!
2006-09-18 00:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what da hell is she doing in a room with another man? you are not the wrong 1 been there done that don't let her throw you that guilt trip u invade her privacy. thats crap but if you want to aplogize to her just tell her what i tell ma girl we are a couple and we are not supposed to hide things from one another, so if you wanna be mad be mad, i am sorry for what i did that you have no right to be in a room with another man. even if you are breaking up with him. be a man guy and stand up for yourseld don't let no 1 walk over you. you will be hurt if you do i 've been there at 1 point. hope it helps
2006-09-18 00:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be sincere when you apologize. You can't just turn back time. I'm afraid it's up to your ex and her family to forgive you and move on. Just do your part.
2006-09-18 00:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Janais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not how you apologise that matters. It is how you behave after the apology that is more impactful and which will show your sincerity.
2006-09-18 00:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sincere, if it comes from the heart she may forgive you.
2006-09-18 00:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by mdakota24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you are sorry-
2006-09-18 00:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋