I found my husband was cheating on line. We have been married 25 yrs. I know he now has a new email address and password and am going nuts trying to figure out what it is and he won't tell me.
2006-09-17 17:13:00 · 22 answers · asked by Judy D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What for? if you don't trust him anymore, get out of the relationship. What good will it do if you find out? It will only hurt you. The bottom line of any relationship is trust and confidence.
And no matter what, privacy of communications must be respected.
2006-09-17 17:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by berkut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I check my boyfriends stuff all the time and find out his passwords and user names and emails. You can find it two ways go online after he gets off and click the button that shows the recent history and it should tell you what email addresses he went in to. For the password part you can click the forgot password and answer the secret question. There all pretty easy to answer when its your boyfriend or husband. Then it will give you the password. Some of them ask for an alternate email address and you can just put in all the ones you know he has and it has to be one of them.
The secound one is to go into the recycle bin, click view, then explorer bar and go to history it will also give you email addresses there and you can click on everything and see everywhere he has been for more than a week.
When you get into the email addresses you know you can check everything even look in the trash. If he has yahoo you can see if belongs to any groups as well, and you if he has messenger you can find out how to go in a save every instant message from him and who he's talking to. The best part is people never think to check the archives to see if someone is having them saved whenever they go on and when you go in you can print them out as evidence just cut and paste. Believe me all this works.
Also if you think he may be interested in someone he doesn't talk to all that much or you want to see if he would start a relationship with a stranger you can make up another email address that he doesn't know about and start emailing him. Get him to do instant messenger as well and if you have a cell phone you can have them go straight to your cell when he's home or your away from home and yu can set it to vibrate so he doesn't know your getting it if he's home and chatting with you thinking its someone else.
If you do this last one and he does go for it be prepared that when you confront him about it and tell him its you that he'll probably get pretty pissed that he was decieved and fell for it. Believe me I did that to one of my boyfriends and we got into a huge arguement over it.
Hope all this helped,
Playful Princess
2006-09-17 17:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Playful Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spectorsoft 5.0, the e-mail address is: sales@spectorsoft.com, or call 1-888-598-2788. This is a spyware for your computer, it takes snapshots of everything your husband is doing online, shows all of his e-mail and IM's, records all keystrokes, (that will show you what his address and password is) and you can make it so it's in stealth mode, so he doesn't know.Good Luck.
2006-09-17 17:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have much bigger problems than not knowing your husband's private information. come on, do you have to know every freakin detail of his existence? you are going to drive yourself Prozac, if you aren't already. if you don't trust him now, which i don't blame you, knowing this info. isn't gonna make you trust him. if you want to stay married, you're going to have to let him breathe. find something for yourself to do to occupy your mind. when a man is constantly accused of misdeeds, he will eventually fulfill your expectations. why shouldn't he, what's he got to loose? he's being accused anyway, why not have fun in the meantime? and do you think that being neurotic/paranoid is going to make him rush home to you and your questions? not for long, i assure you. good luck girl. ps. or you could screw around and you'd be on an even playing field. (i didn't say that, did i?)
2006-09-17 17:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alrite so u have a computer @ home? it should be there when you are ready to sign on. if not call up the company and tell them you added a new screen name but you can't remember it, the password just change it because they wont give it to you. do u know which account he has it on? meaning how do her pay for it? credit care,check, cash there should be some kinda of proof that he has an account! but thats the only way i got my information from aol i had to call
2006-09-17 17:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier to get a new husband. 25 years is a long time, and a cheater isn't ever going to change. They just find different ways to do it. Good luck!
2006-09-17 17:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he has no right to keep this from you. My mom went through the exact same thing recently. He is not being honest with you. If he says he's stopped cheating, make him prove it by opening up his e-mail right in front of you. If he refuses, divorce him.
2006-09-17 17:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by wmichgrad 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay lady time to forget about the computer. Start talking to your husband and find out what made him cheat. The problem is out, now it's time to find the cause or else divorce him.
2006-09-17 17:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by cat s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not get them, unnless he tells you, are you know a really good hacker. why would you want to know? If he has done it once, well just keep counting. because once a dog, always a dog.And you know you are in for the long haul. just grin and bear it, or get yourself a boyfriend, you might like that. dont you really get a little bored with him. Add new spice to your life.
2006-09-17 17:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by fredadover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For what?If he's cheating on you what's an e-mail going to do?I'm guessing you have no proof.Just leave if you don't like it.
2006-09-17 17:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋