All right, this is really pretty funny, but I'm actually not making this up and I would like to have some imput on it.
I have been dating my girlfriend for a month now and her father is making us break up because I did some inappropriate things with her but more because he thinks we had sex.
To clear some things up, she is a virgin and yes, I have had sex before. But that was when I was young and immature. I am a better person now and I would not hurt her.
I fully intend on having a "talk" with her father over this, cause I'll be damned if I lose her over something stupid like this. I only want to tell him that I have not slept with his daughter and that I am insulted that he would think that, and that I don't intend on breaking up with her cause I really do love her.
Don't get me wrong, I understand why her father is doing this. He worries about his daughter. I respect him for that, but I do not intend on giving up my girl.
Please ask if you want more info and I'll post it.
2006-09-17 16:48:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Hi..
I have seen that you have posted this question, in another category too..
Nothing wrong, with it...
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But you and that girl, are minors : (15-16) ..
I think that her father is protective, what I think is normal when you love your child!
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He might think, that she is to young to have a serious relationship..
And maby, he want her to finish school, first...
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He is concerned! .. and I think he is trying to do the right thing...to protect his daughter...
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You can have a conversation with him : but be polite, and try to understand his point of view..
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There is really not much you can do...
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You must realize, that you have your hole life in front of, you!
So, talk, and see what happens...
Give it time, and have fun..You're still young!;)
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Thanks, for the question!;)
My regards!
2006-09-17 17:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get that chip off your shoulder before you talk to him. Is the girl a minor? If so, he is within his rights to forbid her to see you. You need to be extremely polite and assure him that your intentions are entirely honorable. Tell him that you respect his daughter and him and would never do anything to harm her. It is not necessary to tell him about your past. That would just make the situation worse. The age difference is very important here.
2006-09-17 23:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how old is your girlfriend and how old are you?
The question I asked you because it does matter for a father to worry a younger daughter, but the somehow the age affect the situation.......
2006-09-18 00:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Shar-Ching 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay as you are... good intentions and all. best is, prove to the father you're respectable enough for you and his daughter to continue with your relationship. sit with him, talk to him... alone, just the two of you. explain to him you understand his predicament, but you have no intentions of fooling his daughter. see to it that she arrives home on time, safe and sound. show in actions what you told him in words. if you could prove your worth as a man, he'll see you thru...
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saw from other answers, they are correct. i forgot about the age matters... if you're still a student, below 18, just be polite and respectable. never show any pervert actions towards her. you're both young, and unless you made it thru college, with her as still your girlfriend, then you've prove your worth as a man. but if you don't, then you're a loser and not worth anyone for that matter...
2006-09-18 01:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by VeRDuGo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whew, that is ballsy. I guess if my daughters boyfriend had a talk like that to me, i would respect him much more....Although I would not want for him to take that as a green light to go ahead and do it, but you seem to care enough about her, not to. After all...you are not a virgin...she is-STILL. You got my respect. Good luck with Dad
2006-09-17 23:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dyma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you definitely have the right idea about talking to him about the situation instead of ignoring him and doing it anyway. A lot of times, being honest and talking out the problem will work.
2006-09-17 23:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kindred Spirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is also afraid that you and your girlfriend are to serious about one another. The truth is if you want to keep your girlfriend then you have to become friends with her father. Reassure him that you truly care for her and that you have the up-most respect for him and her.
2006-09-17 23:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this girl is under 18 you are wrong and you will not win this fight . if the girl is under 18 and you are over 18 get ready to get knockedthefuckout . if she is over 18 she is an adult and her father has no rights on her decision making .
2006-09-18 00:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by jsjmlj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain it to him that his daughter plans on remaining a virgin until she gets married and that you highly respect her for that and that you wouldnt want her to change her ways for any reasons and you would appreciate that he say sorry to his daughter for thinking that way of her and he being such a protective good father should know her feelings on keeping her virginity and her true plans on her decisions on her future
2006-09-18 00:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by grandmaginnys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you have control of the situation but make sure that you listen to her father and fully explain his worries away...My father can be the same way...take care!!
2006-09-17 23:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by supercutemomostar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋