Should gays and lesbians be allowed to adopt?

Question

I dont want to hear any thing about gay marraige or religious reasons, its simply a question of whether or not they will be able to raise children if given the opporotunity. Please state your reasoning too!

And for those people who've accused me of being against it, no where in my question did I ever state an opinion of my own, or any such bias either way...

Answer 1

Absolutely
I have 2 adopted sons...and a biological daughter on the way
I am in a committed, happy, joyous relationship
Both sons are Honor-role students, play Pee-wee football, and Base ball
Are popular among their peers
Are respectful and polite
They know that they were conceived in Mom and Mommas Hearts, not in their bellies.
They were born crack addicted, If left with their biological parents or bounced from foster home to foster home...would they be the amazing young men they are today??
Two Lesbians met them and fell in love with them and wanted them as our family..
Adoption should be available to all couples who want it, no mater what their sexual orientation is

Answer 2

I think we should be able to adopt because if you think about it there are millions of children all around the world that need to be adopted. But only a limited amount of people allowed. Gay and Lesbian couples would be as loving and caring as a straight couple. I have heard people say it messes with the child's perception on life. But I know that is wrong. In my opinion it all depends on how the parents explain to their kids why they have two mom's or dad's and their friends have a mom and a dad. In this day in age who are people to say that we can't adopt. We are as normal as everyone else, we have jobs a home and caring and open arms. Every child needs love whether it be from straight parents or gay/lesbian parents. What's the difference? There is no difference. We are the same.

Answer 3

Absolutely. There's no reason gays and lesbians shouldn't be able to adopt. There are too many children out there in the system who desperately need a home, to descriminate against potential parents in such a way.

To the people who think that gays and lesbians are pedophiles: Take a psych course sometime, will ya? Almost ALL pedophiles, rapists, and child molesters are straight white males.

To the people who think that gay and lesbian parents will turn out gay and lesbian children: Sorry, nope. Actually, straight parents turn out more gay and lesbian children. Funny enough, children who were raised by gay or lesbian parents are far less likely to be.

Children are amazingly understanding and loving. They don't discriminate against anyone unless they were taught to. You think having gay parents is the only thing a kid could be teased about? Please. They're more likely to be teased about the colour of their hair, wearing glasses, the colour of their shirt, their name, or the way they tie their shoes.

Answer 4

Definitely. The only "reason" for them not to adopt would be that children won't get a mother and father model to follow. Well, to begin with, many children don't have a mother and a father, for different reasons, and they grow up very well. Besides, those children who don't have an actual mother or an actual father, imitate the model provided by a grandparent, uncle or aunt, or whatever masculine or feminine role is missing in their parents.

But most importantly, this is a circular reasoning. The churches want there to be a traditional mother and father family. And they claim that homosexual couples don't have that. Well, if you just begin to realise that children raised in other parental models, can be great and complete people, too, you'll see there's no reason whatsoever for every couple of parents to be heterosexual. I mean, the claim is:

- being homosexual is wrong.
- homosexual couples are wrong.
- homosexual parents are wrong.

Now, why IS being homosexual wrong, to begin with? They say, because of the teachings in the bible. Well, I won't argue that, but weren't our countries religion-free? If so, homosexuals can adopt all right.

Answer 5

Yes I believe Gay Men and Women can be as good if not better parents than some straight people and btw I am straight, just so as you know I am not a biased voter here.
Parenting is a hard thing to do and I think Gay people have to be strong to maintain their lifestyle against such objectionism that they definitely have the strength to raise children with strength to spare.

Answer 6

At one point in time the whole gay/lesbian subject was all hush, hush and the people that were non-hetersexual hid it in the closet.
But nowadays its all out in the open. Movies, books, music and now in public too.
Each generation is known for something. Like the Babyboomers,
the Me, the X, and now we have the Accepters.
Todays kids are more accepting of all things!!!!!
So without considering the Bible's interpretation the non-heterosexuals should be able to adopt.
Heck, they can be and make better parents then hetersexuals.
Today's kids are being raised without a Dad or Mother or they raise themselves.

Answer 7

Definitely, What sexual preference they have shouldn't enter into it, only that they are good people who will make good parents and love a child. I wish my son could adopt, but Florida is still against it. Florida will only allow them to be foster parents. This isn't good enough! these kids need homes and love or the state might have to deal with them later in prison. That expensive! Families are not traditional anymore. Many children are being raised by one or both grandparents, or a single mom, or in my case, my father raised me. So, I am for anyone who is willing to stand up and take responsibility for the care and love of a child in need. thanks for the Q.

Answer 8

With all the unwanted and abandoned children in this country, it is beyond my understanding why the homo/hetero question should even be an issue. What matters is whether they can provide a safe, secure, and loving home, and are willing to make the lifetime commitment that parenting entails. I was a single father, my daughter is now grown, married, and on active duty in the U.S. navy, but she'll always be my little girl, and I'll always be there for her, that is what being a parent means.

Answer 9

Kids need all kinds of 'family' members to help shape them. These could be family friends. I amazed how some people go on about children of single parents in this day and age, so I imagine it is going to be just as hard/ harder on the kids of gays. So if they are up to that kind of challenge I can see no reason why not.

Answer 10

All the research says that their kids come out exactly the same as their straight counterparts, in all the same proportions. There is no evidence that there is ANY negative effect on these kids, so: of course. I can't believe that people think kids are better off bouncing from foster home to foster home than if they had loving gay parents.

Answer 11

There was a study done in Europe where social scientists studied families with same-sex lesbian identified couples. They concluded that the children grew up in more egalitarian homes that weren't subject to the same gender segregation so children's opportunities were broader, and not stifled by gendered stereotypes when considering careers, and regarding emotional capacities. (Egalitarian means having equality between members) I don't have my box of research with me.. So i'm going to go hunting....

Here is a portion of one of several articles i found. This article does discuss same sex families. I liked this blurb because a lot of people argue kids aren't safe in same-sex families. However, according to psycologists, sociologists, and psychiatrists same-sex couples shouldn't have any less of safe homes than heterosexual couples:

"The nation's leading mental health organizations long ago rejected the suggestion that "homosexuality" is a mental disorder or pathological condition. The American Psychiatric Association, National Association of Social Workers, National Association for Mental Health, and American Sociological Association have adopted resolutions deploring discrimination based on sexual orientation. Stephen F. Morin and Esther D. Rothblum, Removing the Stigma, 46 American Psychologist 947 (American Psychological Association, September, 1991). Over twenty years ago the American Psychological Association adopted an official policy recognizing that "homosexuality per se implies no impairment in judgment, stability, reliability or general social or vocational capabilities." Id.; see also Patricia J. Falk, Psychosocial Assumptions in Family Law, 44(6) Am. Psychologist 941, 943 (1989) (reviewing research that confirms that lesbian women, and lesbian mothers in particular, are psychologically healthy as their heterosexual counterparts.)

Social science research confirms that many gay men and lesbian women live in committed, long term relationships, see section II A, that those relationships are characterized by the same love and satisfaction as comparable heterosexual relationships, see section II B, that partners in committed gay and lesbian couples, like married partners, take care of one another, see section II C, below; and that legal marriage would serve the same unitive purpose for same-gender couples as it does for heterosexual couples. See section II D. "