seriously help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

its not cause of me its my stepmom shes so mean to me i really want them to get a devorce ..........my dad even clls her names and says mean things bout her she does to but she the worst at it she calls me names like slut and makes fun of me and always brings me down and she controls me w/ everything no one on my dad side likes her even and she listens to my phone conversations and interrupts me when im on the phone she also hurts me at times she says im just like my birth mom and im gonna turn out like her "my birth mom is kinda bad long story" i just really need your help people please and i dont do anything wrong so dont say i do. i really want them to split up help

Answer 1

OK, this is going to be an endurance contest with your wicked step-mother, just like the fairy tales.

This is going to go on for years until you leave the house. So be sweet to her as if you were a lfight attendant and she was a crabby, bitchy passenger. Go along with her insults and nod when she acts controlling. Stay off the phone as much as possible. Don't argue with her. Never, ever, not once, should you lose your temper with this witch.

Study as if you were studying to get out of aconcentration camp. School and good grades are the road to your freedom.

This is going to take a long time. It's going to be torture to hold your temper. But your life will turn out better. I'm rooting for you.

Answer 2

If you are old enough, get a job and get your own place.
If you have to stay, work hard to educate yourself so you can get a job and get your own place. Do not challenge your father about her. If you do, you will lose. Be aware that she is giving him what you can not give. Wanting them to split up, is not a choice you have. Splitting up is up to them. Did you ever try to ask why she feels that way about you? Did you ask your dad why she feels that way about you? If you want things to change, start with yourself. She can only bring you down if you feel that she can. When your dad says bad things about her, how do you react? Do you laugh? Do you sit and listen to every put down between them? You say no one on your dads side likes her. How do you know this? Do you hear them talk about her, and show an agreement to what they say. What do you do on Sundays? Try going to church. Do something besides put you problems in an open page like this. No one can really give you an answer to your problem, because we do not have all of the facts. And as for you saying you did nothing wrong, you must realize that no one is perfect, including you.
No one can hurt you unless you allow it!

Answer 3

Wow shes a piece of work isnt she.. sweetie i wish i had a magic wand and i could make it all better for you but i cant.. the only one that can is your father and im wondering why he isnt leaving her, im sorry but if someone was that mean and controling to my kids, no matter how much i loved them or how great they treated me, they'd be gone..so have u ever asked ur dad when he's on his "i hate her too" kicks asked him why doesnt he just divorce her if she makes everyone miserable?? Hey u should feel lucky, u get to grow up and leave home soon, your poor dad has to stay married to her for however long he chooses.. if he's a man of his vows then hes stuck with her for life.. u atleast get to be free of her eventually.. true??? Try and stay away from her, and ask your dad if u can buy a prepaid cell phone to keep her from listening to your phone calls.. stay out of her path as much as possible.. dont let her get to u, some women are just plain mean especially when the kids arent theirs, i luckily had a great step mom.. i actually refer to her as mom now.. so not all step mom's are this way, there are really good ones out there, but just talk alot to your dad, try and do things with him outside of the house with out her if possible.. and know ur a better person then she ever will be .. u have more class at your young age then she ever will in her whole life.. so be proud of yourself.. always do what is right, and learn from her mistakes.. but dont let her or anyone ever bring u down.. good luck sweetie and i hope it gets better for u..

Answer 4

She is abusing you and has no right to if what your saying is correct. Tell you teacher, a school counselor, doctor, mother of a friend or family member you can trust. You can not break up their relationship but you can live in another location with different people. Is your mother OK and alive would she have you or a grandparent aunt uncle etc? Look at your options seek the help of a social worker. Call kids help line... Get help and I am sorry she is so mean to you.

Answer 5

You need to sit down with your father and tell him whats going on If he does'nt help you then you need to tell a family member or a school councelor. She is not your mother and should keep her mouth shut about your Real mother. You are you and she needs to respect that. She may think that she has the right to listen in on your phone conversations but where is the respect that you deserve. Talk to your father and see if he will interfere ask him to take you to some counceling if she won't back off!!! SHE SHOULD NEVER LAY A HAND ON YOU IF SHE DOES CALL THE POLICE. Sorry to hear that your going though this.

Answer 6

Only your dad can make the decisions to divorce. It will be really hard but you need to tell her how you feel, write a letter if you need.. You need to gain her respect. She has no right to treat you that way. If you cannot get her to stop, try to record the things she says, secretly of course. Turn it in, tell someone. She is abusing you. Verbal or physical it makes no difference. It's still wrong. In the meantime, just try to keep her content. Avoid confrontation as best you can. Try to be the best you can. Work hard, do whatever you can to help around the house. Don't talk back, don't be rude or disrespectful, as hard as it may be. Just bite your tongue.

But you really need to report this. It is not right. Your father really should be standing up for you and putting her in her place. Try to talk to him too. He needs to know how you feel.

Good luck, sweety!! Stay strong!!

Answer 7

If your father does not know everything, then tell him. Then you should give her one chance to expain herself and what she does. Then if she is still a (bleep) then bring an adult that you can confide in (maybe grandparents, aunt, uncle-you may not feel like any of them really care, but they do and they don't want to see you get abused, they will help you) Tell this person what she does and be honest, do not over exagerate. Then you will know if she is truly being abusive, you don't really want to accuse someone if a lot of this is just you hating her for being a stepmom. If she is being truly abusive, and you can't find someone else to help you, then you need to go to children's services with all this.

Answer 8

If she is physically hurting you and your father isn't doing anything about it, you can go to your school counselor and talk to them. They would be the best person to tell you what the options are in your community. Don't let her negatives sink into you. For some sad reason some women are jealous of ex wives.........she is probably projecting that anger and jealousy out on you. Don't accept or let yourself believe any of the bad things she says about you. Really what she is saying to you are all the things she hates about herself. I don't know if that helps you any because I know how much words like that can hurt, especially if she is physically abusive as well.

Please go to your school counselor and talk to them. They can help you and your dad out of this situation. As a parent I know we don't always see how much a step parent is hurting our children until the child is already hurt. My daughter and I have been in counseling for over a year working out the abuse she encountered from her step father, now ex!

Good luck sweetheart! My prayers will be with you!

Answer 9

Sounds like you need someone that will listen to you. have you tried to ask your stepmom and dad if they will go to family counseling. Or, if you prefer ask for a therapist of your own. They also have social workers at school if it's at the point of child abuse. Talk, talk, talk to whoever it takes to make yourself feel better. They may not get separated, but you all could live together happily if you get help. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Your job is to protect when you feel something is wrong.
Have your facts available to back up your case.
If your facts are not credible or just opinionated, then it will do no good to stress a point becasue it would be totally based upon opinion and not facts.