i got a married woman pregnant. after a big ordeal with her husband finding out, he wants to raise the baby as his. i dont want another man raising my child. what can i do ? do i have any rights as the biological father ?
2006-09-17 16:35:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have legal rights, talk to a lawyer. However, to exercise them you may have to take your married lover to court. Do you want to do that to her? You could destroy what is left of her marriage. Does she want to leave her husband for you? Are you prepatred to marry her and be a proper father to the child?
2006-09-17 16:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you think about the effect this is going to have on that child in the future? How are you going to explain what you two did when he is grown up and living with her husband. Who will he call dad? The man his mom is married to and with him 24/7, or the man who had an affair with his mom and only sees him sometimes? I think it's pretty big of a man to take the responsibility for a child that's not even his and wasn't even his choice. I'd say he is pretty forgiving of his wife and willing to do whatever it takes to make things right.
Just a few questions you may want to think about. You have already made a big oops in sleeping with a married woman. What were you thinking?? You had no right to even go there!! Now you have a responsibility to this child, you need to stop thinking of yourself and think about what will be best for that child.
2006-09-18 00:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a married woman has a baby, the husband is assumed to be the father. If he wants to raise the baby with his wife, he must be a very forgiving husband who wants to keep his family together. You were not the brightest star in the sky to fool around with a married woman. Now you need to bite the bullet and let it go. I hope you'll be more moral in the future.
2006-09-17 23:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer because I believe that in some states if a child is born during a marriage it is assumed to be the husbands. Anyways, you definatley have all the right to love, cherish and be a father to your child. Why should you and the baby be the one to suffer. Your situation is going to be a tough one but if you know in your heart you want to be there for your child nothing will change that. Fifty years can pass and the longing for your child will be there. Fight for your right to be a Father to your child!
2006-09-17 23:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy shea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer. Laws concerning this matter vary from state to state, and depending on your residence, you could have rights. Those rights may involve visitation and child support, though there is little else you can do, other than filing for full custody of the kid. You may have to deal with someone else raising the kid some of the time.
2006-09-17 23:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by ink_collector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have rights your the babies father but to make sure that it is yours i would have a dna test done after the baby is born that way you don't go through all this trouble for nothing ok? you can go into court and have something set up where you would get your son or daughter everyother weekend or every other week or every 6 months and so on you would have to wait until after the baby was born and the dna test was done or if you know for sure i would go into the court and file something on it right away to make sure that you get to help raise your child and be in his or her life be a good father not one that runs off take care of that baby.
2006-09-17 23:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by baby d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about your legal rights, but I believe for the sake of the child yet to be born that you understand that this baby was conceived from adultery and that this unborn child should not have the confusion of what has taken place between you and it's mother! I think that it is amazing that the husband is willing to raise this child, it shows how much he loves his wife and is willing to forgive her for her unfaithfulness. I can't imagine the confusion this child would have to live with until he was "much" older to understand what happened, maybe into it's adulthood as to why his mother slept with another man. Please allow this child a healthy future with one mother and one father and learn from your mistakes and stop messing around with married women.....they do not belong to you! The mother of this child will have to live with her choices the rest of her life, so she will not get off too easy either. But trust me on this one, think of the child before you think of yourself!
2006-09-17 23:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do...but first you might want to have a paternity test done for your legal standpoint so you can prove you are the father. Then when you get the results back and they are in your favor, file for a petition on raising YOUR child, and of course there may be child support issues. Good Luck!!
2006-09-17 23:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by sunnyrays61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and have a patenrity test taken. If she cheated on her husband, how do you know its your baby? If it is your child she is carrying, you have paternal rights. The husband is just jealous and will try to make your life miserable. Best of luck to you and please stay away from married women in the future.
2006-09-17 23:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have rights as the biological father. Best thing you should do is contact an attorney and find out what those rights are.
2006-09-17 23:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋