I'm a junior at Baylor U, and I'm thoroughly frustrated. It seems like whenever someone finds out that I don't want to go to keg parties or smoke crack on the weekends, they think that I'm absolutely no fun. Am I the only one that would rather have fun in ways that don't involve booze or drugs? (Rock-climbing, Scary Movie 4 night, trying out weird Vietnamese food, anyone?) I know some people don't drink for religious reasons (and I respect that), but does anyone else avoid alcohol/drugs for other reasons, like I'd rather not be arrested for drinking underage or wake up with a hangover? Feeling pretty alone here!
2006-09-17 16:27:37 · 20 answers · asked by kacey 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Pssh--you're not alone.
I just graduated from college and I didn't party once. I have weak lungs, so smoking anything is out. I don't like the taste of alcohol (or being drunk), so I don't drink. It's nothing religious. It's just me.
One of my most fond memories at K-State (boo Baylor!) was when some drunk guy chased a squirrel around a tree naked in the middle of winter. More of a reason NOT to drink!
You're not alone! I promise you're not alone!! Actually I think that rock-climbing sounds pretty great. If they had a great climbing facility in KS, I would be there in a jiffy. :-) We always had theme nights--Star Wars night, Scary Movie night, etc. It was great.
Of course, then I met my boyfriend/now fiance who lived 2 hours away so I spent my weekends with him watching movies and trying new restaurants (our favorite thing to do!). Some days we would even volunteer at a soup kitchen or an animal shelter together. We were SO crazy!
2006-09-17 16:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I am sure at Yale and Harvard students study on the weekends. Older adult (nontraditional) students have families and jobs and can't go out and get wasted on the weekends (although some probably do). I am a 30 year old college senior and I have had my freedom for so long that I don't feel the need to go out and party every weekend (I don't live in the dorms either). Besides, I couldn't think of anything more mindless then partying with a bunch of 19 and 20 year old frat guys and sororiety chicks. When I was 19 and 20 I felt the same way too. You probably are going to have some sucky years ahead but just put your nose to the grindstone and focus on getting good grades and getting the Hell out of there.
2006-09-17 16:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same in my college days. I spent one semester at a small private college that had high academic standards. I was also the only person in my dorm who didn't want to join a sorority or party and drink every weekend. It was very isolating and lonely. I ended up transferring to the state university near where I grew up - it wasn't as good academically, but there was a wider variety of students. I hung out with a crowd that worked and went to school and was interested in stuff like movies and concerts instead of drinking and partying.
It's frustrating. But maybe you can meet some like-minded people through a campus chat room or something. See if there are any book clubs or movie clubs you could join. If that doesn't work, you can always try to find non-students to hang out with.
2006-09-17 16:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rose D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exac lty what you are feeling. I am fed up with everyone on campus and I am going to be a commuter next semester because it seems like the only reason why people here stay in dorms is because it is a place to crash after get smashed. I am so not into that, I thought it would be fun to be with kids my age at college but it turns out I was wrong. I don't fit in at college because despite the common thought that college is for driven people who want to do more in life and succeed, I realize college is for every joe schmoe out there that wants to party underage away from their parents. No wonder Bill Gates dropped out, college life sucks.
2006-09-17 17:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not. I average going out on the town maybe 3 times a semester and it's usually after finals or before so that I can get everything out before I stress out completely. I'm 22 and I've only been drunk twice. It's just not something I find myself wanting to do. I'd rather stay home and curl up with my guy and a good movie. You don't have to go insane to have fun, just do what you like to do and to h*ll with all the rest of their opinions.
2006-09-17 17:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by bluecrystalsmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep up the good work, those kids are unfocused. To whatever feels right and give a **** what people say. I like to party but its not a every single weekend thing. I would drink but no to the point of loosing control of my self. And drugs? no thank you. You miss a lot if you keep your mind blurry.
Do activities you enjoy, believe me that there is a lot of people that feel the same as you do. you are not alone.
2006-09-17 16:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are thinking above the crowd which is very positive.
If they all went and jumped in the fire, would u do it too?
U are very mature and wise in the mind and your hobbies are more important than alterning your mind with drugs or alcohol.
Dont feel guilty or discourage, and dont worry,
I would avoid alcohol or drugs in public places. U may need em one day in life for medicine purposes as u get older.
Get your education and get into herbal and vitamin usage instead of drugs which will help u in the long run.
If u do decide to try drugs or alcohol, dont try them in crowds, good way to get into trouble.
2006-09-17 16:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you i go to college and i know so many people who go to parties all weekend.
i do like drinking but since starting back to school at the end of august i havent drank...and i dont drink accessively enough to have a hangover. i think movie nights are really fun and just hanging out is great
2006-09-17 16:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a junior also and I don't party. I did enough of that in high school and all I do when I think back to those times is regret regret regret. I've outgrown all of the keg parties, and people acting stupid. I would rather surround myself with intelligent people who can actually contribute to society!
2006-09-17 16:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not the only one. It's bloody ridiculous for people to party every weekend like that. They're the ones who make awful grades and end up on acedemic suspension. You're right; there are so many other things (safer, more fun, and less idiotic) that someone can do for entertainment.
2006-09-17 16:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by ChiChi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋