Am i crazy for not going to a marriage counselor with my husband that when I told her that I was being abused, she looked at me with the most disbelieving eyes I'd ever seen and said, "Oh yeah, how are you abused?" I then proceeded to tell her and she gave me the same look and said, "And how many times has this happened?" She also cussed during our appointment, which totally in my opinion threw professionalism out the door and seemed very sacastic about the whole thing. I was so upset by this I started crying my eyes out. Does this sound normal?
2006-09-17 16:26:51 · 5 answers · asked by lgb_v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a relationship counselor and this is not normal or professional behavior on her part. Please do not let this bad experience deter you from getting the help you need. If you are physically abused then you need counseling to get through the emotional scars that are left behind. The biggest question I have for you is, are you still being physically abused by him? Is he still verbally and mentally abusing you by making you feel inadequate or bad about yourself? Abuse is verbal as well as physical...it is head games and emotionally destructive...it doesnt' have to be a physical hit for it to be abuse. If you are still experiencing these, and he is not willing to stop treating you like this, why are you trying to save the marriage? You BOTH need to work on the relationship, and you need to establish boundaries with him. You DO NOT DESERVE to be abused...you deserve respect from your spouse and nothing less. Please, seek another counselor. If you would like to talk to me more about this, please e-mail me and I'd be more than happy to help you hon. (((hugs))) be well, be safe.
2006-09-18 01:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her she wasn't doing her job BTW a counselor does not have to have qualifications look at a persons qualifications they need to be a therapist or social worker with and extra year for counseling. No professional would or should treat you like that for abused women their is a domestic violence support line and counseling center seek their help.
2006-09-17 16:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell me your problems
maybe you should seek counseling on your own first
I'm here to help
2006-09-17 17:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt normal. find another councelor or psychologist, not a psychiatrist
you can email me too
2006-09-17 16:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Glimmer__Man1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel that she was inappropriate , report her..
2006-09-17 16:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋