I have a 17 month old son and he doesn't have that much to do with his father, partly because of communication break-down and taking things said the wrong way(most of the communication he has had with me after we broke up was through text messaging). At the moment i'm trying to contact him (txt)so i can talk to him face to face and explain some things that he's taken the wrong way and to try and work out with him when he can see our son, but he is very defensive and thinks i'm just after maintenance money from him, but i'm not! I want our son to get to know his father because i grew up without one and i know what it's like without one.
2006-09-17 16:23:55 · 3 answers · asked by strongagrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been there. Wanting my kids to have a relationship with their father and visa versa. Trying so hard to make it work and you know what? It's not even my place to make it work. I too didn't have a dad around and grew up promising myself my kids would have a daddy. I had to let my dream go. Simply because I can't work hard enough for the father to want a relationship with his kids. Its up to him. And no, it's NOT FAIR you have to watch this happen to your kids too...but it is our reality. On a positive note, somewhere down the road, your kid's father may wake up and recognize the blessings he's missing by not being around. But it make take you backing off for a bit for that to happen. I wish you and your kids the best of luck. I'm routin' for them!
2006-09-17 16:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get the boy's father to commit to a frequent schedule for seeing his son, lock that up and it'll be good for the child. The fact that the father isn't interested and sounds hostile is typical and doesn't get better.
If there is little contact, start planning NOW to send the child to boarding school as soon as possible, like 4th or 5th grade, so he gets some day-by-day male mentoring in the way the world actually works.
2006-09-17 16:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I feel that pushing your son on his father is the wrong thing to do. If the father is interested in seeing his son, he should be the one trying. I really feel that your son wouldn't be happy in a situation where he knows or feels he isn't wanted.
2006-09-17 16:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kindred Spirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋