My bf and i are on a break. He thought we were moving to fast, which yes i do agree. Hes cares for me alot. and told his friends im the perfect girl he has ever met. Anywho, When we talk on the phone, it seems to me its like he dosent have much to say, and seems to me like he dosent want to talk to me or something? It confuses me ALOT! I wonder what he's thinking. Also to mention we both got out of a serious relationship not to long ago when we started dating.
2006-09-17 16:14:25 · 26 answers · asked by confussed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the first thing that you must realize and remember is that many guys don't like to talk a lot and especially on the phone and many women talk too much to the point where guys start tuning them out. and the worst is a woman that is always wondering what their guy is thinking and then asking him "what are you thinking?" ...... they are his thoughts. leave it alone. that feels like someone trying to snoop thru your personal possessions. if he wants you to know what he is thinking he will tell you. if not, leave him alone <> MOFO
2006-09-17 17:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Mojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that guys dont like talking on the phone, at least with my last boyfriend, we were friends for 4 years, and we'd talk on the phone for half hour or something sometimes, but as soon as we started going out, he never seemed to talk all that much. Give him some time, from what it sounds like he's wanting to cherish his time with you, and not rush it, that might have been his problem with his last relationship and he doesn't want to do the same thing wrong this time. If he's your boyfriend, whether you are on a break or not, you should be able to talk with him, and honestly bring up the fact about how you feel when you talk on the phone, see if he feels the same way, and maybe it'll change when you talk on the phone next time
2006-09-17 23:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take advantage of the breather and really make sure you're whole and healed from the previous relationship. Use this time to get to know yourself more intimately so you can mature and learn from past mistakes. I know you care a lot for this young man but maybe the timing is off. Don't press the issue, it will just stress you and drive space between the two of you. Enjoy life and make each day a great journey. Be encouraged...
2006-09-17 23:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may hurt, and I apologize.
a) You recognize this may be rebound.
b( Why would any guy pull back from a girl like you?
c) Why would any guy use the "too fast" line unless he wants to slow down ... easier to stop and courteous.
d) Phone conversations are hard to interpret. BUT if you were going to fast and now he doesn't have much to say. BTW - who is calling whom?
e) If his friends pass on that comment - then why is he acting that way?
f) Don't be played for a date duck on this=loving on the date and dead on the week.
2006-09-17 23:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your so great for each other, and he thinks your awesome why did he break up with you? That makes no sense, unless your like 16 and what he means is your great but so is your best friend. I think it was a cop out, get over him fast because while he was "not" talking to you on the phone his new gf was sitting on the couch. Sorry Babs
2006-09-17 23:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez, you must not have much experience with men. that's a good thing. fact is, guys NEVER have much to say on the phone. most of the time because we never shut up! give him a break on this one, surely you can find something to complain about with more weight than that. if you say too much about it to him, your phone converstations will probably come to an end because he'll feel like he's being analyzed and men do not like that at all. sorry guys, i know i'm generalizing, it's just easier!
2006-09-17 23:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal situation, you just have to give some time to lets things calm down. It also depends on how much time both of you spend together, so if you are together very often it won't be the same at the phone
2006-09-17 23:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Erick V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you need to take a break something is wrong. I think you should forget him before he gets you into trouble. He is playing games with you. Next thing you know you will be willing to do anything he wants just to get him back. Forget him and move on while you are still sane.
2006-09-17 23:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes you a whole lot. But you should take his advice. If he recently got out of a relationship and you just got out of a relationship just stand back and let things flow. Don't force anything just let it flow, in other words whats will be will be. Good Luck.
2006-09-17 23:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by mitteycole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys dont really talk that much on the phone. Just dont expect a lot from the relationship and give him time. He is just overwhelmed by it:)
2006-09-17 23:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋