is there anybody else on this world who knows how to forget and forgive?

Answer 1

it's pretty difficult to forget what he/she has done, the person your trying to forget will always come between the people trying to forgive and forget. But if two people truly love each other, forgiveness can be somehow reached.
Although no one would say that this was easy to come by as it definitely not a simple matter to shrug off.
When a person says " I'll forgive you, but I can't forget ", it tells me that the person is really saying is " I'm big enough to overlook the injury, but I'll never forgive it". He's not being very forgiving is he?
We just can't erase the past. We can't undergo shock treatment to blot out the memory. What's needed is some kind of healing action that cures the infection and removes the pain. What we need is called " Forgetful Forgiveness ". So when the incident comes to mind, we don't live it over again. We don't let our memory reopen the wound and reinfect our relationship. What's past is past; it can't be undone. But it's effect on us can be changed by forgiveness!
True forgiveness has wonderful healing powers. It restores eyesight; we suddenly see ourselves much more clearly. Plus we learn a tremendous lesson that we might never have learned without the injury. The person who can't forgive must be blind to his own faults. He must have never done anything that needed to be forgiven.
One thing we discover, when we see ourselves, people have been forgiving us every day for things we've done. Our partner has been overlooking our faults that we've hardly noticed. Then too, forgiveness lets us see that partner more clearly.
Unforgiveness distorts our vision. Everything goes out of focus. Our faults are made bigger out of proportion, while our good points blur into oblivion. But wonce we forgive, our vision comes back and so does our perspective.
Until the rift is mended and the wound is healed, forgiveness is not complete. Forgiveness is total acceptance. This includes acceptance of the injury and of the suffering and the acceptance of the one who has hurt us.
To forgive is to give oneself, asking nothing in return. It is to love where to hate would be the natural response. It pardons the one who deserves only punishment. It frees him from the burden of guilt.
That is what forgiveness is all about. God bless.

Answer 2

There are many people in the world who know how to forgive and forget. There are things that should be forgiven and forgotten.

But unfortunately, even if people forgive and forget, there will always be those who choose not to -- and they may not even be a participant in the whole thing so they will continue to spread the rumors and remember whatever makes them happy.

Keep in mind -- when someone forgives and forgets -- hopefully they have told the person/people involved.

Additionally, there are situations that though forgiven, may not be able to be forgotten or may require punishment. You have not offered details.

Answer 3

Fostering unforgiveness only hurts you. You have to decide that your health and well being are more important than holding a grudge against someone who could probably care less. Choosing to forgive shows maturity on your part and opens your heart to receive love and good will. Forgetting means that you choose not to give that thing any more power or energy in your life. The meaning of forgiveness is literally to send the offense away. Put it out of your mind and focus on more positive things. After all, God said He would forgive us (and forget the offense) as we forgive our debtors. Free your mind and emotions from the bondage of unforgiveness and you'll feel a whole lot better. Be encouraged.....

Answer 4

You can always learn to forgive but forgetting is something we as people never do~you may put it aside where you think you have forgotten~but some where down the line it will come back~everything is remembered~it is just what might spark that memory~forgiving is something you have to do within yourself~it is not something taught~or something you can just pick up on~it is something you have to work within yourself~it is you inside that will adjust to forgive~I have forgiven many things~but there is still so much that I can not forgive~it just depends on you and what affects you~what I may forgive for~maybe something that you can not forgive~
WHY??????????? Are you having trouble forgiving someone~or is there someone you are waiting to forgive you for something????

Answer 5

You can't truly forgive unless you forget. We're all human, so it's hard to do both. If you don't forget the situation can you really forgive? Everytime you remember what the person did to you, all types of feelings surface and your forgiveness may be in vain.

Answer 6

Everyone deserves forgiveness even if it is hard to offer it sometimes but to forget is harder and you never really do instead you get past it learn from it and move on with life. You can't dwell on it or you become bitter and won't trust anyone. I believe in a second chance but I never forget I just accept it as another chapter in life and move on.

Answer 7

Forgiving is great. Remembering, not forgetting helps us learn from the past.

Answer 8

what's the point of forgetting? if you forget, then you would have learned nothing from an awful experience. Forgiving is great, but forgetting... I don't know

Answer 9

I seriously doubt that if one has been wronged, they ever forget while they may be able to forgive. Just because you had your right hand bit off by the sharks doesn't mean you have to put the left hand in the tank too.

Answer 10

Forgive absolutely.....Forget Never.