Okay, I seem to struggle with accepting the fact that the people around me that are close to me truly care about me. I have this one close friend that is like a big sister to me. She is 9 yrs. older than me, and I am 18 years old. She is very outgoing and happy all the time, so I really enjoy being around her. I look up to her a lot...and we do lots of fun stuff together like shopping and eating at restaurants every so often. I know that she likes hangin out with me b/c she invites me over a lot and we go lots of places. But for some odd reason....I always catch myself thinking that she just feels obligated to be my friend, or that she doesn't really care for me that much. Although I have no reason at all to believe this...I still seem to feel this way. For example---if i call her and she doesn't answer, then i just automatically think she ignored my call. I feel like I am crazy and I dont like feeling like this at all b/c she is a very important person in my life. Can u help??
2006-09-17 16:01:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You may have a crush on her. You might be hiding your true feelings because of the age difference. If not, talk to her about this. If you two are as good of friends as you say, then it wont be hard to talk about. I've found in my really good friendships, one of us ended up having feelings for one another and that was the reason behind the hurt in when you call her and she doesn't answer.
2006-09-17 16:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how u feel I'm that way sometimes. But I think if u feel this way sweetie u should talk to her about this.
If it's really bothering u then u should confess to her how u feel. She sounds like she likes u to me.
Tell me do u feel this way because maybe someone in the past betray u and it made u feel this way since?
The reason I say u should talk to her about this is because it's gonna start to show that ur feeling way about her and she's gonna think she did something to u and if u don;t talk to her about the way ur feeling before that it could spoil what could be a wonderful friendship. U shouldn't assume she's not answering her phone whenu call because she doesn't want to talk to u or that she's playing ur friend just to make u feel good( thats not fair) she sound like she really like s u and a good friendship is a wonderful thing to have its like gold. She sounds like a nice person so try not to allow ur insecurities spoil it,becausae u may never get to meet someone else like her ever again.
Sweetie, talk to her and tell her how u feel sometimes and I bet she will maek u feel a lot better about the way she feels about u.
Don't keep feeling this way about others
2006-09-17 23:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're addicted to this person and seem kind of clingy. You should consider some therapy . Some people like people like you sometimes for their own agenda and to boost their ego or egress. She's probably taking a break from you. You should have heard her say this at one time or another. Are you in denial? Bring her to therapy with you at least once for clarification. The truth hurts and than you move on. Find some other friends maybe in group therapy or church social functions. Why do you remind me of Jackie from the 70's show?
2006-09-17 23:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number!!! Is it possible that u have feelings for ur friend?? I mean, i know she is like ur big sister, but seriously think about it. Maybe that's why u feel like ur going crazy. Feelings from the heart can mess with ur way of thinking. Whatever the outcome.....it sounds to me that she is ur friend because she wants to be...not because she has to be. RELAX.
2006-09-17 23:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by tina12879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, do us all a favor and find self confidence......The easiest way to do this is to look in the mirror every day and say,"I am a good person and a good friend and today will be a great day." You may not believe it at first, but keep on doing it.......It will embed itself into your subconscious thought and things will soon turn around for the better.......Take care, dear........
2006-09-17 23:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you are extremely self-conscious maybe all you need is some reassurance. just ask her how she feels about you, or tell her about your insecurities. if she is like a big sister to you i'm sure she'll have some comforting and helpful advice.
you sound like a sweetheart, and i'm sure there are plenty of people around that care for you
2006-09-17 23:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by tinkbostwick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you HAVE to put all those thoughts behind you. she is a good friend and she cares about you. look at it this way, if she really didn't like you she wouldn't hang out with you. so she is your friend and you need to belive that!
2006-09-17 23:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost you have to know your own self worth darling. you are worthy of having others care about you simply because you're you! she's lucky to have you as a friend, just as you feel you're lucky to have her as one. believe me, your friendship to her is just as important as her's is to you.
2006-09-17 23:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Meli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you want us to figure out the question and the answer?
2006-09-17 23:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Guy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋