My boyfriend broke up with me, i'm in university. I was homesick during first year and barely ate anything. Now second year, still homesick and boyfriend broke up with me. I can't eat a thing. I feel really weak, and i've lost weight very fast. I'm 19 and weigh 87 pounds. I'm normally 115. I am 5'2 female. I don't like to be super skinny. I'm just stressed. I love food, but now it disgusts me. I lost like 10 pounds in half a week. I was never like this before until university. I think that this how i'm dealing with my stress, but i don't want it to be that way because it's affecting school, appearance, health, everything. I just don't know what to do.
2006-09-17 16:01:05 · 23 answers · asked by heyo 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
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2006-09-17 16:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by hisahito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine the university has a clinic or school nurse you could talk to. Make an appointment and go see her/him right away. There are medications to stimulate your appetite for the short term, and it's possible they would run some tests to eliminate the possibility of some other physical cause. You don't say whether you feel nauseous from the stress or not, but this sounds almost certainly more psychological than physical. That doesn't mean it's harder to deal with - it just changes your approach, that's all.
Feeling rejected as you must from this breakup is something each and every one of us can relate to: Breakups instantly make us feel unloveable and unworthy. Your refusal to eat almost sounds like you're punishing yourself/your body for not being able to hold onto this boyfriend.
He didn't give you value - he saw the value that was already in you and was drawn to that. (Even if only for a time.) And that's perfectly normal in your age group, for people to be in your social circle for awhile and then move on....it's all part of this season in your life. It doesn't make you or him a failure - it just makes you both pretty normal, no matter how "in love" you may have thought you were.
I know it must hurt or you wouldn't be affected this way. But God has something much better planned for you - so learn to love yourself again and get some good food going into that body!
And get involved in something outside of school or the groups you and the ex-boyfriend used to share together. Do some volunteer work - work in the hospital or on the phones for a crisis center, and you'll forget you're troubles while you're helping someone else out of their's.
Or do something completely new. Take an art course OFF campus at a local museum or art center and make some new friends. Take up an exercise class (yes, that can help you gain weight by getting your appetite back) or start going to a local church and get involved there.
The bottom line is, you have too much going for you to punish yourself this way. Get some help from a health-care professional as soon as you can...but then do for yourself what the healthcare professional can't: Start being your own best friend. Be very kind to yourself, and get involved in something just for you that will help take you're mind off the homesickness and off the wayward boyfriend, and something that will serve to remind you what a truly wonderful person you are in your own right!
Be good to yourself! We care -
2006-09-17 23:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful...this kind of thing can easily turn into an eating disorder. It's normal to have trouble eating when you're in stressful situations, but try to make yourself eat at least a little bit. Or have smoothies or shakes so you get some nutrients until you're ready to start eating normally. Even if its hard, you have to keep trying, and dont just let the difficulty with food keep you from trying to eat. And in the mean time, take a multivitamin. If you want, email me, i have a lot of experience in this area, and might be able to offer more advice if we talked some more.
Good luck, and make sure to find something every day to destress and relaxe. Even just 15 minutes alone listening to music..you need time for you. It helps, try it.
2006-09-17 23:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Fade__Out 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts a great deal when someone breaks up with you. You will feel that no one else will love you like he did, or you will not love anyone else like you did him. But that is not true, while you will not love anyone else exactly like him, you will love again, and that person will love you.
You will find your soul mate, you just have to find him.
Why you don't eat sounds stress related, if you have great trouble eating, try drinking. Instant breakfast will provide you with some nutrition, and so will taking B-complex and other vitamins. Drink plenty of juice.
Think of something you enjoyed when you were a kid, something you mother made, even get her to make it. A nice home cooked meal might get you to eat again with family.
If this does not work, perhaps seek more professional help.
I hope this helped you in some way.
2006-09-17 23:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by danny_is_cool1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a grip on your life. I know its hard, but its your life and you have to do something about it. If you really feel that homesick then maybe you need to go home. If that isn't an option for you then try finding someone to talk to. The university should offer some sort of help for you. They can work with you and help you through things. If you have friends, talk to them and see if they have any ideas.
2006-09-17 23:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is stress. I suggest you see your doctor and see if he can give you medication to either handle that or something to improve your appetite. He may also refer you to a nutritionist. In the mean time try to eat more. Choose a time of day when you are relaxed and can sit and enjoy it. Invite friends to dinner too if that seems to help. Also take vitamins, a daily supplement like one a day. Vitamins will increase your appetite as well. Try to eat something like toast to get you started in the morning. Starches are known to increase your appetite. Mainly see the doctor as he will know if you have any additional medical ailments he needs to see to. Good luck with this!
2006-09-17 23:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find ways to relax, or your body will become too stressed & exhausted & you will end up in the hospital. try to take a walk every day, and eat a little at a time. always make time to sit down & relax when you are going to eat. distract yourself w/ friends & family & try to get involved in a calming hobby that you enjoy, take a multivitamin every day, drink milk, and take warm baths. get plenty of rest. you must take care of yourself because your weight is getting dangerously low. if you cannot improve the situation alone in the next 2 weeks, you need to see a doctor. best of luck to you-
2006-09-17 23:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a hiatis for a semester(Only ONE), de-stress b/c your grade are going to continue to plumet and then you'll owe money to the school. Go home and take time to focus on you, and when your better again go back and rebuild your life. Your only 19 you can make it, heck i know of alot of people going back for their nursing degrees in there 30-40's. There's alot of time, don't push yourself into thinking you need to fit your achivements into a neat little time line. You're an adult and you're on your own, learn to love you and pamper you. you'll do much better after that.
2006-09-17 23:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to get out of that rut because before you know it your body will be in a rut.
you'll be chemically imbalanced and clinically depressed.
pick up a nice chocolate bar, chicken soup and a small sandwich.
put on some nice comfy movies and nibble at your meal... that's a start.
and try some meditation... you must continue on. give your folks and friends a phone call or drop an email... start out slow get back in touch with folks to help ya get back in gear and release some endorphins.
you got to.. your body isn't happy right now and you deserve to get back in shape and get your life in gear and that education into that skull of yours.
good luck!
2006-09-17 23:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, I moved away from home and family and I had the same problem. You should try meeting someone that makes you happy again.
And smoking a little bit of the green stuff should bring back some of that hunger, even if its for potato chips. lol
2006-09-17 23:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by mrdream3333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try having small snacks throughout the day...they only have to be small just lots of them
make sure you keep your fluids up
hopefully your appetite will return
if not seek a councilor at uni or a doctor for assistance
Good luck and remember no one is more important than you and you need to look after youself
2006-09-17 23:05:02 · answer #11 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋