If gay couples received all the legal benefits as a married couple, would you stop fighting for gay marriage?

Answer 1

If we received all the legal benefits as married people, we would be married! That is the only way we would have the same legal benefits. At that point it would be nonsense to continue to fight for same sex marriage!

If you are viewing marriage as strictly a religious institution, rather than a legal one, perhaps you should petition you Representative and Senator to estabish a legal distinction between religious marriage and civil marriage. Then we could all be happy!

No, that wouldn't be true - my husband and I were legally married in a chapel by a Reverend and have a legal marriage license. Oh well. I tried to find a middle ground to please everyone. I guess that won't happen. Perhaps you should just let those who are participating in the rite make their own decisions for themselves, particularly since it will have absolutely, positively no impact on your life.

Answer 2

Gay marriage is not really the issue. Gay people can get married in all 50 states.

The issue is the federal and state governments/laws treating it equal.

The same government that suggested so often that Iraq and 9-11 were connected, that we ended up going to war has made people believe that the legislation and state constitutional ammendments that have been passed was to BAN gay marriage. Not a single state has done that.

Some of the states, however, have passed legislation that prohibits any changes that would give homosexual relationships the same benefits/rights/protections as marriage.

I will fight for EQUAL rights. I don't want to get married. I want the people who do want to get married to have that right.

If people really cared about the institution of marriage and didn't mind trampling the rights of others to protect it, they would outlaw "serial marrying," abusers getting married, adulterers getting married, and liars getting married.

I think, that using 2000 year old religous text to define/limit a modern legal contract is somewhat odd. In the text that describes who will burn in the lake of fire the list has many other sinners that are going to burn and has nothing at all to do with sexuality.

If people can't get married because of sin, then nobody can get married. If we were capable of living with out sin, Jesus wouldn't have had to die.

The only way I would accept a "civil union" situation instead of marriage is if the government stopped recognizing marriage completely and ONLY recognized civil unions. I want EQUALITY, not something special just for gays.

Answer 3

If legal benefits included being married, then there would not be much left to fight for unless certain people REFUSED to give gays a ceremony unlike straights.

However, if they recieved the same legal benefits but did not include gay marriage as a benefit, then no I would not stop fighting because they still do not have the same rights or privelages as a straight couple, which is defiant of their civil rights as a human being.

Answer 4

If they stopped calling the legal portion of it "marriage" for straight people as well, then I'd be fine. If we have two different, "equal" systems set up though, even if they really were equal to start with, it would be far too easy to change that fact in the future. If straight people are entitled to a LEGAL "marriage", then so are we. I'd remind you that biggest fight right now (and on a personal note, the only one I really care about) is for said LEGAL protections, under the same name as the same set of legal protections for any other couple; most people don't really care about religious marriage, and there's certainly no one advocating FORCING religious people to perform or recognize weddings that they don't want to. We've already got churches we can go to for that.

Answer 5

I would certainly NOT stop fighting for same-sex marriage. As someone else has said, we decided a while ago that "Separate but equal is inherently unequal". Such is system will never be acceptable to me. It must be full equality.

And I still say the funny thing is that I can have a religious marriage. I have such in the works. I can't get a civil marriage, which should not be an issue. See something a bit weird there?

Answer 6

I think you hit the nail on the head. As a lesbian, I honestly feel it's not necessarily "marraige" that is the issue. The issue is that my partner and I can be in a committed relationship for 10 years, have powers of attorney in place and such but if one of us is admitted into the intensive care unit of the hospital we cannot visit each other because we are not immediate family. That is the problem. Unfortunately, as it relates to heterosexual society, the only way for the gay and lesbian community to achieve these rights is if the state they live in recognizes a union for them or if marriage is legalized. Heterosexuals do not understand the heartache that can be involved when you have to walk through life denying you have a partner for fear of losing your job or your children. All we want is to be treated as equals.

Answer 7

Honestly, yes.

The "seperate but equal" debate needs to be fought at a later time rather than lumped together in the fight for equal marriage rights. It's simply poor tactics to try to win the entire war in one battle.

If married homosexual couples can get the same rights as straight married couples, but have it be given a different name, it's a HUGE victory over having none of those rights at all.

I personally feel that the All Or Nothing stance will get nothing in the end.

Answer 8

I would have to say no.Marriage means to come together as one.
I agree it would be nice to receive all the benefits as the straight people can,but if you love someone,you want that special bond.you want that union between each other.I believe in a few more years and not that long- it will be legal. There is way too much debate over it,and we seem to be coming out of the closet and fighting for our rights alot more than what we used to do.

Answer 9

not unless we also win the right to be legally married....until then, that would just be separate....but not quite equal. so, no...I would not stop fighting for gay marriage!
who exactly would it hurt if a monogamous, committed couple were to get married? who cares if we're the same gender! and, come on....don't tell me there aren't enough straight people out there who make a mockery of marriage! like Britney Spears' just for fun marriage in Las Vegas...all the cheaters and wife beaters....why not make that kind of crap illegal? because then a lot of Bible thumpers would end up in jail...that's why!

Answer 10

Sure.

I don't care what you call it. I just want to know that if I die, my partner will inherit what I have, will not be kicked out of our house by an idiot family member, and can also get the financial benefits from my employer that a widow would get.

So I make a will. Big deal. Nasty family members can contest a will. We need the same protection as any other spouse.