its not a bf or even a friend but a boss and an office manager that has thrown me under the bus....i cant help but want to get them back
2006-09-17 15:34:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am sure you will make the right decision...
2006-09-17 15:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by lovelostboys 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thinking of revenge feels good because it is an outlet for your rage. Your anger needs to come out, and revenge on the person who caused you so much anger seems like the rational target.
The thing is that carrying out revenge will result in other unpleasant feelings. After the inital relief from unleashing your anger onto the culprit, it will bring regret...and that is only the beginning of the ugly, dangerous cycle of negative feelings.
Your boss/office manager harbors some type of evil within. It has begun to spread to you. Let it go, let it go...and it will not germinate in your soul. If you feed it by seeking revenge, you will cultivate yet more evil.
How can you let it go when you feel so much anger? Exhale deeply and let it all out. Tell yourself that you will not become as he/she is. This anger and evil will leave your body and mind and evaporate into nothingness.
How can you resolve some ill feelings towards those who hurt and offend you without being evil in return?
1. Forgive them for they don't realize how horrible they are.
2. Try to love them because God loves them even though they make bad mistakes. Actually, this person(s) did this to you because he/she is just selfish or jealous.
3. If nothing else, remember that living well is the best revenge. Be happy! It drives them crazy!
:)
2006-09-17 15:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by hope03 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A desire for revenge is a very natural thing - we want to lash out at those that hurt us. However, it is really not appropriate. I am shocked at some of the suggestions people are offering you; please do not give in to that kind of mentality - it will only lead to more problems for you. Instead think two things - one, living well is the best revenge, and two, ultimately, an almost universal spiritual concept is that the good will be rewarded and the bad will be punished - but not by you.
2006-09-17 15:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge will hurt you even more. Try forgiveness. This is not trite it is to help you feel better. Of course you want revenge, but wanting it and having it be good for you are two different things. My ex-husband cheated on me for a long time. I was furious. I filed for divorce, got divorced and realized I was happier than I ever was with him. I don't wish him or his mistress any harm and that is a very healing way to go. It's the same with you: forgive and stop keeping score and you will feel free. Good luck to you.
2006-09-17 15:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people in managerial roles that should not be around people at all. I gather from your name that perhaps you are a nurse. You are in an occupation that is in good demand. Do not remain in a toxic environment like this. It affects your concentration and makes you feel horrible at work. I had a boss like this. I and another key person left...she fell on her face because she could not replicate the work we did that she had been taking credit for. She went through a succession of being fired from various places. All of us who were under her "wrath" are thriving. I was even approached to return, it felt so good to say not no, but hell no. Generally, I do not like to burn bridges, but I was delighted to incinerate this one. :-) I am sharing this with you to let you know that there is life after being in the bowels of hell with a savage boss.
2006-09-17 15:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here what you do. Make an instrument that can pull a few cups of sh1t and p1ss our of a port-o-poty. Keep in in a jar and wait for a hot enough day to where you boss would keep his/her car window open. I think you know where this is going. Imagine having you car filled with blue feces and urine from possibly 100 people. Dont wuss out. Get er done!
2006-09-17 15:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mac D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to someone in a higher postions and let them know whats going on and tell them what u want to be done see if they can help you
2006-09-17 15:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know that you are the better person for not seeking revenge, and know that God is there to judge them, and what goes around comes around (God smacks).
2006-09-17 15:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well of course you do.....it's only natural....wisdom comes form learning from such occurences.....id take a lesson from the buddhists and evaluate any decision you make based upon three basic criteria........is it moral and what are your true motivations for making the choice.....how will it or could it affect you.....how will it, or could it affect others
2006-09-17 15:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by enigmaticarrogantass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
revenge is never the answer....two wrongs don't make a right.
If you want to make yourself feel better....Tell that person how what they did made you feel. It's worth it.
2006-09-17 15:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Imhernand had the right answer.
2006-09-17 15:49:50 · answer #11 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋