I've fallen out of love. I've done a lot of growning up. I want to move ahead with my life and he's apart of that childhood. We have 2 kids, which is tough. But I can't go living my life unhappy. I was depressed for months and I want to live a better life for my kids. But I know he still loves me. We're seperated now and he lives somewhere else. But he still thinks we can be together. How can I tell him I don't think it's going to be that way anymore. How do I tell him I don't want to be married to him anymore?
2006-09-17 15:26:09 · 27 answers · asked by unluckypuddles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no good way to tell someone who loves you that the relationship is over.. Just be upfront and honest. The pain, hurt and anger he will feel will end quicker that way then it would if you just keep stringing him along
2006-09-17 15:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Roper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something I hear everyday, And what you need to think about is does he abuse you, physically or mentally? If yes then i suggest you tell him in person with maybe a friend if he is the violent type. But if he has never done anything past normal relationship arguments i say you need to think about what your saying and realiaze that over 60% of men has abusive tendancys against their spouce and even their children and you could end up with one of those men easily, Also 70% of men consume alcohol on an ossesive level and may lead to violence. You need to consider all this before your try to erase a man from your life wh fathered your children because as a psychologist I believe without doubt that it is immpssible to fall out of love. You need to reflect take some time off work maybe find a babysitter and talk to your husband about the problems why he acts the way he does and go from there, these waters are treacherous.... Tread carefully. for your sake and your childrens. Best wishes.
2006-09-17 22:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Living separately now makes it easier for him to accept the inevitable fact. You have to be one-minded to tell him it is over. I persume the children are with you and you have taken stock over the role of being a single mother. No matter what you should be ready to shoulder that responsibility.
If your spouse is still adamant over these issues, I suggest you engage a lawyer to sort it out legally. Of course you assure him that both shall remain friends on mutually agreed conditions especially those related to your children..
2006-09-17 23:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by fir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't.
Try this first... www.retrouvaille.org
I promise it will change your life. Whatever problems you have will not be solved by getting a divorce. They'll just become worse. And they'll make your kids' lives a living hell. Whatever unhappiness you are feeling, is coming from inside of you, not from him (unless he's beating you or abusing your kids). You must take responsibility for your feelings. Love is a decision.
2006-09-17 22:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by M W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure know how you feel...First husband ignored me for way too long He had no hormones and I fell for someone else. Just say you dont feel the same way anymore.. Just say it He must be getting the idea when youre already separated...give yourself some time to heal and then someone better will come along..
2006-09-17 22:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him your separated so that already said half of it. Tell him you might not want to hear this but I want to make our separation legal and final and I want a divorce I know you will move on and be happy in time and we can parent our children responsibly together.
2006-09-17 22:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Blunt and just tell him. Be HONEST!!! He will be more likely to understand and accept it if you are. Just make sure that the decision your making is the right one and for the right reasons. Wouldn't want you to regret it later.
2006-09-17 22:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I can't go on living my life unhappy" = Fulfill my own desires no matter who I hurt.
"live a better life for my kids" = loving and living with your husband, give them a stable home to grow up in.
Sorry these are tough words.
2006-09-17 22:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by teef_au 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be firm and upfront. If he can't take it and still causes you issues. take a walk to the law offices and serve him divorce papers. You can divorce without him signing it :)
2006-09-17 22:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one...well since you are already separated, just continue being separated and eventually get a divorce. if he loves you , he'll understand. you have to think twice about it, you have children and you dont want them to suffer...
2006-09-17 22:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋