yeah im in love with my ex but hes no longer in my life but i married another man is there anyway i can learn to love my husband ?
2006-09-17 15:16:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to let go of your feelings for your ex and move with your life with your new husband and find your likes and dislikes about each other and learn to listen and work together to make your lifes fullfilled and happy together.
2006-09-17 15:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by mikey200371671 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's a song that says it... if you can't be with the one you love love the one you're with. There's a reason why you married your present husband....you're probably in a flat spot and can't remember what it is..that will come back to you. It's all part of the roller coaster ride so don't give up just yet. Here's the important thing. Along with that memory loss you've forgotten the most important peice of information that you need to go on with a healthy relationship...the reason why youre not still married to your x....Rememeber that and you'll be back on the right track. GinkaLoba For Love...who would of thought! good luck
2006-09-17 22:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by berlyinlasvegas 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
obviously you left yoru ex for a reason. Maybe you are just afraid of loving him because of the hurt you had the first time around, and using your ex as an excuse.
Look at all the good in your new husband versus your old.
And be his friend and lover.
2006-09-17 22:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you arent in "lust" with your ex??? love and lust are very different things. Loving someone is to totally trust and have a unconditional bond. You can build that with your husband. That isnt something you can build with your ex. Ex's are ex's for a reason. Remember the grass is always greener on the other side.
2006-09-17 22:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by mizz_cassie_cass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have married the guy if you didn't love him. You need the seed of love there already planted before the marriage so it could keep growing. If you don't have it now I don't see it growing.
2006-09-17 22:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by acidcrap 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With out being rude but why did you marry if you were not in love??? just seems a bit odd?
2006-09-17 22:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Emma G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Love can't be forced. You should be TRUE to your "Self" and not cause yourself anymore inner pain and turmoil. You should seriously consider getting a divorce. It's not fair to you or your husband.
2006-09-17 22:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by 2BaD4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you are in love with another man you owe it to your husband to leave or tell him other wise your both living a lie and both will get hurt
2006-09-17 22:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to first let go of the ex.
2006-09-17 22:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch! Suggestion: pretend that your Ex is still your husband and that your husband is your lover. And that you are cheating on your 'husband' with your 'lover'. By my figuring... that should work.
2006-09-17 22:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋