I never trusted girls when i was younger and always trusted and befriended guys. I thought that i'd get over it and decided to befriend a girl that ended up completely screwing me over...oh and the fact that everyone i introduced her to either didn't like her or told me they didn't trust her should be stated i guess. In the end i'm just wondering if I'm the complete idiot here i guess.
2006-09-17 15:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girls are wicked, and I've had the same experiences with them. But the thing is, anyone you trust has a much greater opportunity of hurting you simply because they are human and imperfect and will eventually do something you see as a betrayal whether they intend to or not. The closer you are to a person, the tougher it is to both keep their trust and to not be hurt by them. You'll just have to accept that no matter what, you're relationship with someone you are close to won't always be perfect. Are the things you love about her greater than the wrongs she's done? Why were you friends to begin with? It's your choice whether or not to remain friends with her even though she betrayed you.
2006-09-17 15:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Silver Tongue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you had such a bad experience. Some people are bad, some people are good, and you just had the misfortune of befriending one of the bad ones. Please don't think that you are an idiot though - when we have an emotional attachment to someone (be it just friendship or something more) it can be easy to overlook things. It is like being in the middle of a forest - you can see some of the trees, but you have to be outside to see the entire thing. That is why others were able to see the bad side of her when you didn't. Don't feel too down though - you took a risk, which is commendable, and whilst you may not have been successful this time you will have at least learned from the experience. The fact of the matter is if you want to be successful in relationships you have to take risks from time to time. Trust me about this though: don't give up! The rewards far outweigh the losses.
2006-09-17 15:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know, all females aren`t like that. I have several guy friends and would never hurt or betray any of them. The fact that everybody you introduced her to, had a problem with her should have told you that she was a bad seed. Usually (but not always) when everyone has the same first impression or opinion of a person, it`s the right one. Don`t base your opinion of all girls on that one individual. Guys betray people too ya know! It`s not the gender of the person you should be wary of, but the type of person they are. Some people just have no sense of morality and are untrustable. Regardless of whether they are male or female. You are not the idiot here. She is an idiot for betraying you and damaging your trust for girls. There are some of us who are worth knowing and being friends with. I think you should watch the character of the people you choose to be friends with and avoid anyone who seems a little shady or if you feel like you couldn`t trust a person, don`t tell them any of your personal business or get too close to them. I am a pretty good judge of character and can usually tell right away if I can trust someone or not. I have never been betrayed by any of my friends I would trust all of them with my life and have great relationships with them all. It`s all just a matter of reading people and getting to know them before you trust them. I hope you will try being friends with a girl again and not let this sour you on all female friendships.You just got mixed up with a backstabbing nonfriend. It happens with both genders. Just dust yourself off and try again. You will find that women make really good friends and can talk to you and give you advice about things you wouldn`t feel comfortable talking to guys about. :-)
2006-09-17 15:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People that you trust the most don't always betray you first. This girl doesn't deserve to have you as a friend. There are people out there in the world who won't hurt or betray you. You are not a complete idiot don't give up.
2006-09-17 15:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by chunkybunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because someone can't betray you unless you trust them. Don't beat your self up over it. If people tell you you can't trust someone, there is probably a good reason for it. Maybe you should have listened to them. However, on the other hand, a really nice girl who doesn't screw people over, wouldn't have the reputation of betraying someone. Maybe you are just not meeting the right kind of girls or maybe you should take some time off of them
2006-09-17 15:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As human beings sometimes we judge too quickly. It's always best to go with your first instincts. Everyone else can see this cause they are on the outside of the situation so it's easier for them to see how she really is. As you get to know ppl, you will realize that if you are going to be friends with someone like her and you want to trust them, trust them to be themselves.
2006-09-17 15:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not an idiot.....most people give their trust to people we meet without them passing any kind of test...its just nature.
Its only once you have given people your trust that they can betray you.
maybe next time listen to your friends a little more...as time goes by you will be a better judge of people and wont make the same mistakes....
2006-09-17 15:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betray you'r self... you deny the friendship of a lot of femails and now you don't know them, so you can't see if is a true friend or it doesn't... is a bad experiency, the most important thing is that you learn something and go on.
2006-09-17 15:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u find out for urself if that is true...
if pple say that dont trust her maybe u dont need too...some people made mistake bcoz of some reason,insecurities,jealosy and some negative attitude..be careful on choosing a bestfriend...ur not idiot it just happen that u trust them right away...be careful if the person is giving u xtra nice and u know that she is not that nice...
2006-09-17 15:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some of them have grown to have taken ur friendship or ur closeness for granted....they have outgrown their conscience. they think that they can get away w/ their betrayal. and people u trust are the ones who can easily BREAK u because they know ur weaknesses.
2006-09-17 15:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by sun shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋