He just wants to get to the main event, and I really enjoy foreplay. Don't get me wrong, I love sex too, but sometimes I need a little more turn on time.
2006-09-17 15:12:51 · 27 answers · asked by Dre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just come out and tell him..."I want you to touch my breasts." or "touch me here", he will never know what you want if you don't express your desires...and when he does do what you want then express yourself and tell him how much you enjoy it...talk dirty during sex and express yourself...when my guy and I have sex we have about 30 minutes of foreplay and an hour of sex and then 30 minutes of cool down touching and stroking...but at the first of our relationship he would start our sex play early in the morning...he would leave me notes or voice mails on what our evening held in store...he sometimes still does that and believe me it makes for hot and steamy sex. So try and leave him a note suggesting what your desire is and see what happens.
2006-09-17 15:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by UBU 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please just tell him out right. Like the others have said we men need to be spoon fed sometimes. We do not always no or understand what our woman wants. If you tell him before your in the bed room in regular conversation, like over breakfast, he will have time to digest and think about what you want. Then when the time is right for your love making, if he is not a jerk, and loves you, odds are he will be more attentive to your needs.
I hope this helps
2006-09-17 16:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take the reins and initiate it. Hold him off and tease him for a while if you want. Hopefully youll both get a little more out of it. Before you start let him know that this is what you want, and that you're sure he'll enjoy it, too.
2006-09-17 15:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In many cases the best way is to give him extended forplay and when you see that he likes it ask him if he would be willing to do the same for you next time .Prolonged turn ons work the best random teasing and such try it out .
2006-09-17 15:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by nin9mm 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go buy a huge box full of great sex toys...sit it on the bed with a note attatched....
"If you want more nookie it requires atleast 30 minutes use of any of these toys on ME!!! Then you will get lucky.
Or of course you can play the dominate role and just shove his head between your legs......My hubby loves it when I do that.
2006-09-17 15:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you figure it out, let me know.
So far, what worked best for me was the time I acted like a dead fish. He wanted SOME reaction from me... so I told him that I wanted MORE reaction from him... so then he started to give me some of what I wanted. I told him that I wanted to be made love to and not be treated like a Ho'. Best of luck.
2006-09-17 15:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Valeria 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him directions in the bedroom.
Take him through your fantasy step by step.
We like to hit our targets one shot at a time.
Tell him he has to wait until he does this......
Then tell him that you want him to do this.....
Take him target by target. We are tunnelled visioned and like to hit our target.
Once you have your way with him, let him know, thats its his turn to let it rip!
2006-09-17 15:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to try something new. Tell him it is a game where he must copy you by doing what you do for him to you. Then you take turns.
2006-09-17 15:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rhondie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if that doesn't work get a vibrator and warm yourself up before he comes to bed. maybe he'll get the hint. I'm sorry you are in this bad situation. Id just does it when he gets off get your vibrator out and take care of yourself.
2006-09-17 15:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men usually only respond to direct instructions, it may seem weird at first to tell him, but the pay off will be worth it.
2006-09-17 15:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋