2006-09-17 15:05:21 · 37 answers · asked by Diamond Y 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it's a sign of being a good mother if you are worried about being ready. i think everyone has times of doubt during pregnancy. if they persist, consider adoption.
how old are you?
2006-09-17 15:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by prettyhate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really dont think you can do it, and it would be better for the baby, go with adoption, let another family take good care of the baby. But honestly, you will love being a mother. I'm 19 with a 3 month old, and I only knew my bf for 3 months before I got pregnant. And I would not change a thing, my little one is the best thing that ever happened to me. I def. would have rather been a little older and more financially set, but I wouldnt change it now.
Good luck!
2006-09-17 15:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your state, you may be able to still get a saline abortion -- meaning they inject saline into your uterus which kills the fetus, and you deliver stillborn. I hear it is not pleasant, and it is harder to deliver a stillborn than a live birth, but that is the only possibility left to end the pregnancy.
Of course you are LATE in deciding....if I were you I'd call ahead and find out what the max limit they allow in your state, and then LIE if you have to. You are taking medical risk, but hey, your reasons for not wanting a baby may just be more important to you than that risk. I had a regular d&c abortion 30 years ago right after Roe vs Wade, and by the time I found someone who was trained to do the procedure I was 17 weeks. I lied and told them I was 12 weeks and the procedure went just fine..... but I had a good reason: I had a 2 yr old with which I had eclampsia and another birth would have killed me - NO DOUBT.
Good luck honey. Making bad choices like this, you'll need it!
2006-09-17 15:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by been there done that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At three months abortion is an option. Adotion and choosing to parent are also options. However, an abortion will end the situation now and cost less in the long run.
HOWEVER
You could become infertile (highly unlikely) from an abortion IF it isn't performed by a professional. Don't punch yourself in the stomach or put anything into your vagina to try and abort. Go to Planned Parenthood or any other women's health clinic (if you haven't got a primary physican or gynocologist) and go over your options there.
In the future, use two forms of birth control. An IUD is a form of birth control that is as effective as having your tubes tied, but is completely reversable should you choose to have children someday. It's also good for 10 years so it's cheaper in the long run vs. the pill.
2006-09-17 15:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by fjonesstarr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not ready you are not ready only you can decide that hunnie. But I will tell you that I was worried I thought about have the big A. But I decided not to and I had my son in July, and when I think that I even thought about that it makes me want to cry and I did when he was first born and I remember what I had pondered before he was born. I was just like how could I have even thought about it. But it is up to you and you should not let others tell you what you should do. There is plenty of Birthright is one. WIC is another foodstamps. You can do it if you want to. Just look at all your options. Make sure it is really what you want. It is hard but you can make it. I am kind of a single mom, the babie's father my son to be husband is in Japan in the navy. So I am taking care of him by myself. But he does help me with funds. It also helps to have a good support group wether it is friends or family or both, keep people who love and support you around you. And be confident in what you decide. Best of luck to you. I hope it all goes well, whatever it is that you pick. I would love to know what you pick. I won't judge. If you need to talk feel free. You can email me & I will instant message you back or email you back. Hope my words helped you.
2006-09-17 15:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend the next 6 months getting ready to have a baby. Face reality.
2006-09-17 15:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by DanE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you keep the baby. Spend your next 6 months preparing for this baby. It's gone to be worth it bringing a precious baby into the world. Just start getting ready to raise a beautiful child.
2006-09-17 15:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by **BeautiFul** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got six months to get ready but if you are absolutely positive that there is no way for you to possibly care for yourself and your baby, consider putting it up for adoption. If you choose to do that, just remember that there will be a piece of you missing, possibly forever. You'll never forget your baby, especially of it's your first. There are government programs to help you out if you need it and you can always ask the baby's father for help. It is half his responsibility. Good luck!
2006-09-17 15:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and I honestly did not wanna have kid's but I got pregnant and even though my son's not born I love him so much allready, and I'm waiting to give birth to a healthy little boy, yes the fathers with me :O) but I don't want you give a baby for adoption what did the baby ever do to you, besides being convieced the baby should be the best thing happening to by far.
The mommy instincts will be sure to kick in, now I'm prenant I seriously thinking about havening more children but I'm going wait until this one grow's up a bit. Please just have the baby, and keep your precious one, you'll grow to love him/her wheather your ready to be a mom or not. I wasn't ready, but now I'm going to be as ready as I'll ever be. KEEP THE BABY HONEY!!! or you'll deeply regret it.
2006-09-17 16:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Alexikai 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may think so now, but don't make ANY rash decisions until you HAVE the baby. When you look into it face and you see YOU and you look into its eyes and you see TOTAL dependence on you and they are the color of yours and you feel it heartbeat, feel it's breath on you, hear it's cry....you can THEN make a decision on what to do. There are thoiusands of American women, everywhere, that want a baby and can't have any. IF you have the baby and still don't want it......adopt it out to a nice childless family that would give it the love it deserves. Whatever you do.....DO NOT kill it by abortion!!!!!! Pops
2006-09-17 15:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want the baby I'll take him/her. I would love another baby.
:)
Seriously, do you have a good support system?
Is the father in the picture.
You have options and at least 6 more months to get ready.
Find a wise mentor who has been in your shoes and talk it over with her. (Make sure it's someone who you would want to end up like in 10 yrs or so)
It's scary being pregnant sometimes.
Whatever you do don't go through it alone.
2006-09-17 15:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋