i introduced one best friend to the other and now their a couple. i see them less and less these days, and it is resulting in arguments. what do i do?
2006-09-17 14:56:59 · 17 answers · asked by linda b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't argue with them. Talk to them. Tell them that you miss them, and you don't like that you are seeing them less and less. Then ask them to set a time each week to hang out with you. Be nice to them, they probably don't see your side. So bring it to them gently.
Good luck! :)
2006-09-17 14:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them their space. This is their honeymoon period and they're crazy about each other. Who knows how long this will last, but the best thing is to not be selfish or jealous. Keep in contact by calling, emailing, IMing, and inviting both friends to hang out with you as a couple. Don't make them feel penalized for being together, they make each other happy. Stay close but out of the way. People always want and need their friends. This could be a good time to go out and explore for some new friends of your own, and who knows. Maybe you'll be double-dating soon.
2006-09-17 15:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow; I'm sorry. My best friend and my boyfriend's best friend were a couple and broke up recently, so I have a sort of similar situation. It's hard, but I think trying to be friends to both of them right now is good. Call your chica and let her know that you wanna go to the mall and hang out for a while. Try getting together with some other people too in a big group and go hang out at the movies or something. Big groups can be a big stress reliever for someone in the middle like you. It can help so that if they start to get gross, you have other people to talk too. Good luck!
2006-09-17 15:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them your blessing, and be happy for them.
Your day will come, sooner than you think.
If you love someone, set them free. You haven't lost anything except a few arguments and too much time.
Find new friends, but be selective as you want. What did you ever really want to do with your life and do that instead of hanging with them. They are just starting to find out what "we" really means. You are lucky because you knew both of them and they will need you soon....they just need their time and space to develop intimacy.....and that's a good thing.
Before you know it, they may start to complain about each other to YOU, yes You, but don't let them put you in the middle.
If you get in the middle, you will lose.
So again be happy for them, they still have a good friend...one who cares enough to seek out other opinions.
2006-09-17 15:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is resulting in arguments then I'm guessing your the one causing the arguments? (if I'm wrong..sorry) But I say be happy for them and be happy with yourself for helping them get together. And if they've only justgot together then give them time to get to know eachother properly on a relationship level. They're still your best friends and that shouldn't change!!
2006-09-18 06:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mary R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's having the aguments u r them? I mean r u having aguments with them or they's having aguments with each other?
I guess if ur haing it out with them u should try hard to not allow this to happen by remembering how u all became friends in the 1st place.
If they're the ones haing arguments with each other then u can either try to help them or u can stay out of it because that can cause then to have more trouble with each other.
2006-09-17 15:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for them , they are your 2 best friends and will remain that way for ever if you can handle this well. They are getting to know each other so you don't fit in at the minute, accept this, keep in touch, and be ready for a few pints/ glass wine when they come up for air!!!
2006-09-17 16:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for them! If you love them you want them to happy, don't you? Stop thinking only of yourself. Let them know you are happy for them but miss them terribly. Try to make plans for dinner together. Keep in touch with them any way you can. People naturally get caught up in new relationships and friends should understand. They'll be back. Just give them time.
2006-09-17 15:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friends how u fell and if they have a problem with that then leave them along. Bcuz they are not tru friends if they dont see where u r coming 4rm. More than likely they are goin to break up anywayz if they truly know how u feel. So it is best if u tell them how u feel.
2006-09-17 15:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by **BeautiFul** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if they are a couple now just go find you some one else to be with you all the time. unless you are jealous of them.
2006-09-17 14:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by sicwidit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋