im not married yet, im bisexual, i plan on getting married and i was wondering whether or not it would be wrong for me to jack off to pictures of men or the thought of a man, i would never jack off to another women because i belive my wife should be all i need, but there is no way she could ever fullfill my desires for a man, if it is dishonest i would not do it, but it would be nice, i will definately tell my wife of my sexuality but im not sure i should bring up continueing anything after marriage
2006-09-17 14:42:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, the best policy is always honesty. If she doesn't like it then she isn't the right person for you. I personally wouldn't care. Your sexuality is yours not mine or anyone else's. If women judge you like that then they aren't right for you. Your desires for a man might just be a side effect of something else going on. Men and women are really the same people, just differently thought of and differently formed. There isn't much difference but they are completely different. Just do whatever your heart tells you.
2006-09-18 09:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why marry her if you desire men, cheating is cheating even if it is with another man...if I caught my spouse jacking off to someone else's picture I would be mad as hell...tell her the truth about your desire and let her make the decision to marry you or not...personally I wouldn't marry you.....as for my other half, he say's you're already doomed because there is no honesty in this relationship already and it's all about you and your desires without taking her into consideration. Wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and then decide what is right. Have you or anyone you've been involved with considered Aids?
2006-09-17 22:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by UBU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luke,
I am a firm believer in honesty, as everyone else has stated, you need to tell your future wife. If you guys can come to an understanding of your sexuality and continue with the marriage, and you still find yourself thinking of men; I say as long as you keep it in your mind and use it as fantasy, then go for it. I have been with my husband 9yrs, and every so often I have certain fantasies I pull out like porno!!
Good Luck and don't feel as if you have to marry her because plans have been made.
2006-09-17 23:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bugg J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be open with whom ever you will marry. If they love you and know that you are bi than they will understand. But my opinion is that I dislike porn, any of it. I want to be all that my husband needs. Your future wife should be all that you need sexually.
She maybe different than I am and not mind porn. I hate porn. I am okay with someone being bi as long as I am the only one during the marriage. You want to make sure that you are on the same sexual level. Because it could be a huge issue later on, Deal with it now, before you get married.
Good Luck!!
2006-09-17 22:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there.. maybe before you tell your wife, you should be asking yourself what is it you really want. If you love her enuff, you should be able to forget your interest in men. If you think you can do that, then you should let your wife know so that she can support and help you through. However if you can't, then why get married? Might as well stay single and be happy with whomever, gal or guy.. Nobody gets hurt like that..
2006-09-17 21:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by firaisah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is not ok with your bisexuality this marriage will not work. You better tell her now before you marry her. How do you know your urges will remain in a fantasy level. You already said you are bisexual you are marrying a woman but how do you rid yourself of your obvious attraction to both sexes..
2006-09-17 22:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She isn't your wife yet! You referred to her as your wife!! You should tell her the truth about your sexual preference, before you marry her!! Not telling her this before you marry her is SOOO wrong! You can't start a marriage on false pretenses!!
2006-09-17 23:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is something you should talke about with her first. Let her know that this is something you like to do. Then you will know for sure. The problem is when you do it behind the back of the one you "love" it feels like there us something wrong with us. IIf you saw my question, my husband liked to chat on like or watch porn. If he would have told me it was something he liked to do, i would have done it with him. Now I just feel it's like I'm not enough or inferior in some way. Be honest it is the only way to go.
2006-09-17 22:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage won't change your sexual desires. You have to be honest with her before the marriage so she can make an informed choice to marry you.
2006-09-17 21:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why marry a women when you rather be with a man
2006-09-17 22:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋