is acting like a past bff who diched us to be popular? she is acting so much like her shes not acting like her self and my other bff moved this summer and those 2 are really the only to i share my life with. she makes fun of me not intentaly to hert me but it dose and she dosnt do any thing what should i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-17 14:27:43 · 10 answers · asked by cup_o_noodles89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had a similar thing happen to me when I was in high school.
A girl and I were best friends until the moment we entered our freshmen year at high school. It was like she suddenly became too "good" to hang out with me. I didn't really have anyone else that I talked to, so it was very upsetting for me and hard to deal with.
What I did (and what I suggest you do) is confront her. Maybe invite her over to your house or meet her somewhere where the two of you can be alone without any distractions. Tell her how you feel about the way she's been treating you, but try not to be mean about it. Mention specific things she's done to hurt your feelings; it's possible that she really doesn't realize the extent of what she's doing.
If you're not into face-to-face confrontations, then write a letter to her. Explain in detail why you're writing and that you'd still like to be friends with her, but only if she's willing to make changes (like, not making fun of you). Leave the note in a place where she's sure to find it and will (hopefully) read it to herself (her locker, mailing it to her house, etc).
After the initial confrontation, let it be. If she really wants to keep your friendship, then she'll be the one to make the next move. However, she might just shrug it off and think that friendship with you is no longer something she thinks she wants.
If she steps forward and wants things to change, go along with it. Do things together and with groups of friends, and if she starts making fun of you again or making you feel uncomfortable, gently remind her (by either saying something, or giving her "The Look").
But if she decides not to deal with the issue, then unfortunately, you're better off finding other people to share your friendship with. Try groups or clubs at your school or in your community (I joined a county-wide symphony orchestra and made several friends that way). Find something that interests you; maybe a debate team, sport team, or something similar.
Sooner or later your "friend" may realize what she's missing and may want to try the friendship again, but that's in your hands and for you to decide. Just don't let the cycle start over again.
I wish you luck!
2006-09-17 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kalasyra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you two have moved apart, its now a horrible thing, just typical, instead of clinging to the remains of the friendship, branch out, try to meet someone else that you can be bff's with. good luck.
2006-09-17 21:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you are feeling and what you see. The best way to over come a problem is to face it head on. If she is not willing to listen to you and talk things over, then she is not the best friend that you think she is.
2006-09-17 21:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by frog_ciara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to her about this. If she tells you she would change, actually believe her. and if she doesnt change and keeps up with this non sense leave her becuase its unfair and its hurting both of you
2006-09-17 21:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by LiLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and if it dose not work then go your own way and make new friend.
2006-09-17 21:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by paula g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is not a good friend. you should try to seprate from her and find new friends that actually care for you.
2006-09-17 21:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by purpledaisy2990 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a bff
2006-09-17 21:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Evil Homer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta accept that she's no longer your bff
but, there's someone else even better
who is!
--why you keep ignoring her?
2006-09-17 21:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap some sense into her
2006-09-17 21:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some new friends.
2006-09-17 21:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by M W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋