i knew him less than a mth but we feel that we've been together for most of our lifetime.there's just this mutual connection in us that could not be described.but i'm confused.our age difference is 12years.he is 12 years older than me.but that doesn't matter.but stll,i have to give a thought abt his kids.wat do i do?move forward or take a step back?
2006-09-17 14:20:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
alright.i'm 19.he is 31.
2006-09-17 14:29:32 · update #1
Yes it's fine to date someone that is divorced with kids.
2006-09-17 14:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is OK.
Here's what I did. I'm a divorcee (male) with no kids. I met and started seeing a divorcee (female) who had two girls. I am 13 years older than she. Her girls were 9 and 6 at the time. I fell totally in love with her and we married. The girls are now 13 and 10 and we are one big happy family. I'm still learning how to be a daddy (her ex is a real butt head) but I think the girls love me over their own dad. We are extremely happy and things are good. We've been married almost 4 years now.
If you love each other, I'd say, GO FOR IT!
2006-09-17 21:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have feelings for him, then I say go for it. But if you are unsure, get to know him and his kids. Keep them involved too. If after some time you feel that things are good, then just keep on going. If not, then the relationship is not for you. You have to be certain if you are going to start a relationship with him. Depending on the age of the children, they do get attached after some time. Good Luck!
2006-09-17 21:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by frog_ciara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do either just take it slow and see what happens....If you are both that interested then neither one of you will be going anywhere soon, but you do need to take it slowly and see if the age difference and the children will be a problem down the road, good luck
2006-09-17 21:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from experience.....wait longer than a month. He may be putting his best foot forward right now. How old are the kids? Do you have kids? How old are the two of you? Which in reality, doesn't matter in the scheme of things. All that matters is that you love him and he loves you.
2006-09-17 21:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make the choice, but if it was me, I would give it a shot, age is only a number, and I would really hate to think, no one wanted to date me because I had a child. If you like him and he you,move forward. good luck.
2006-09-17 21:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what is in your heart. Children survive their parents dating (the divorce was much worse). The question you seem to be asking is: are you with the right man. Again, you are the only one who knows.
2006-09-17 21:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both deserve to be happy. go for it. just be respectful of the kids' feelings. take it slow. don't spend the night. do include the kids in activities after you get to know the man better. slowly introduce the kids...age doesn't matter.
2006-09-17 21:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by lil_angel64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a BIG YES !!! as long as she has nice clean h*le !!!
2006-09-18 03:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Motu P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to question it step back.
2006-09-17 21:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋