why do people get married and then split?

Question

why do people get married and then split, leaving the kids to deal with their stupidity.

its really disgusting.

Answer 1

Nobody takes things serious these days...No conviction!!
I have been married to my wife for almost 10 years, and we are both under 30. It just takes some work, that's all...compromise!

Answer 2

The reason is, people have an unreal perception of what marriage really is about. I call it the "happily ever after" syndrome. People believe that if they are unhappy, then their partner isn't the right person for them. Truth is, it is impossible to feel bees and butterflies all the time. Feelings come and go, just because you don't feel them doesn't mean they are gone forever. Plus, I find people don't want to share how particular things make them feel. Rather than dealing with it, people try to bottle it up or disguise it another way. If men and women would just be committed enough that they would talk through any problem that arises, we would see a dramatic drop in divorces. As long as people believe that divorce is the answer, well then people will continue to split.

Answer 3

Sometimes marriages don't always work to ones advantage.
It seems once people get married they think that they can just let themselves go, or forget about communication.
I believe people that end up in divorce marry too soon without realizing who this person they're marrying really is. I also believe most people can solve marriage issues with communication and compromising.
Some marriages end because of infidelity; if someone were to cheat on me in a marriage I would most certainly divorce them just as well as anyone else. I don't deal with cheaters because cheaters are liars and once a cheater you're always a cheat in my book.
It seems these days many people are unable to remain faithful to one another. I say, if you can't be faithful, don't say I do because it's a committment, not a game.

Answer 4

B/c we get married too young or change after the marriage, thus making it impossible to live together. Another reason is that a lot of people are so selfish, that they refuse to give in to their spouse...would rather split and leave the kids hanging instead of meet the needs of their partner!!!

Answer 5

Because most people are to immature to deal with actually having to work on their marriage. A marriage takes alot of effort on both halves to make it work. Even more so when you add kids into the mix. So people don't want to do this in this day and age. Right now everyone is usually all about " me me me" and getting things (or results) right away.

The only way I would leave my hubby is if he cheated on me. Adultry is a deal breaker.

Answer 6

I agree. But there are those who marry for the wrong reasons as well. For the others, they just weren't prepared to deal with the hard work in making a marriage last so they take the easy way out.

Answer 7

i'm sure people dont split up on purpose after making a comitment like that. some times people change & they have a hard time getting along. i wish that more people tryed 2 stay 2gether, but some times its impossible. honestly i am on my second marrige. my ex-husband started beating me after we got married & i got pregnant & left 4 my childs safty. i didnt want my child 2 b in a abusive home. now 4 years later i have met a great guy who i just married a year ago, & its great. try 2 open up your eyes alittle. things arent always as simple as u might think.

Answer 8

Because they don`t want responsibilty!!! and another thing is that they probably thought marriage was so perfect and they could not deal with lifes situations along with their children. The government should make it hard to get a marriage license and a huge price to have a child...Divorce is the easy way out!!!

Answer 9

People don't get married with the plan to split! Would you rather the kids live in a world of screaming and yelling?

Answer 10

Well maybe when they get together at first they really love eachother and basically they're so infatuated with eachother that they really don't think about what it will be like to be married. Or it could just be that they jumped to conclusions too quick and married without really getting to know eachother.