I feel strongly that my HUSBAND made a baby outside of our marrage.I need to know and I really want to know.I know if it is true what I am hearing in the streets,I will be really hurt.My heart is telling me that it is true.I need to find a way to prepare myself if it is true what I am hearing.My life and world will be shaterd.Now I have to start some investagation.I wonder how our 3 children will take it if it is true.The kids might start acting out real bad and I am not ready for that right now.I will not know how to handle a situation like that.This is not the time for that cause I have been under a lot of emotional stress lately.My mind,body,heart,spirit,and soul is not ready for that if it is true.But I do have to remember what my great grandmother told me before,Don't believe nothing you hear,only half of what you see.I hope it is just a rumor somebody made up just to break us up again.I know what is best for me,I need to pray about it.
2006-09-17 14:08:36 · 16 answers · asked by mrs.pierre3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yes PRAY! for strength, guidance, comfort, and understanding. Its not the end of the world your not the first or the last woman that might have to walk down this storm. Ask god, if it is true, your a woman that has a lot of love within you to sit down and talk with your husband pray together, its not impossible to share your heart, love, and gods love with this new baby.. this has been going down like this for years. I think you need to sit down with your husband.. The air needs to be clear, please don't listen to another family, friends lean on GOD he will direct you, comfort you, keep you in a place where you need to be, if he has a child out there, you can still make it,. you can still grow but GOD HAS TO BE IN IT> Your foundation in your household has to stay prayed up as a whole.
Lord I will pray your strength. Only GOD HAS that answer your looking for ask him to show you. Ask him to place your foot steps the children will be fine, its how you open the door of acceptance is how they will walk by you.
GODS LOVE WILL KEEP YOU.
2006-09-17 14:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Praying about it is a good start. I have to tell you though, waiting until the best time is definately NOT the answer! I was married for 32 years to the same guy, I loved him so much that I let rumors and here say go in one ear and out the other. I kept telling myself that the Lord would not have allowed us to be together so long and have two great kids, just to let it end like that. Well, it did end like that, and it didn't have anything to do with the Lord allowing anything. **** happens unfortunately. I too was faced with the exact rumor you are. My husband had a baby with someone else, not once, but twice. Hell, for all I know he could have fathered an entire baseball team! All I am trying to say to you honey, is don't wait till you think you are better able to handle it. There simply won't be a good time for this particular situation to be faced. Don't do what I did, wait another 10 or 15 years hoping things will change or he will change. It's not going to happen. Here's the most important thing of all, If he has fathered a child with someone else you better believe there are going to be child support issues. Things will never be the same as they once were. You will never be able to trust him again, and without trust, there is no relationship! Do yourself a favor Dear, confront him NOW. Don't wait. Please, get out now while you are still young and have a chance at a better life. Believe me when I tell you, your husband made his choice when he went to bed with someone else. He WILL do it again, trust!
Anyway, its your decision to make, I wish you all the best,
Your friend online, TERRY
2006-09-17 14:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by maudiemelvirda@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is just a rumor you are hearing on the streets, you need to confront hom directly. He needs to know what you are hearing and have a chance to make things right. Be honest with him and just tell him you need to know if this is true. If it's not, that ignore the nasty rumors.
If it is, you both need to find a way to make this work so that it doesn't hurt your other three kids.
I personally have never been in this type of situation so I don't know what I would do. But I have seen the results of my father cheating on my mother. It ended badly and I do not talk to my father. I hope that this can be worked out with you two and that it doesn't hurt your kids too much!!
Best of luck with you, be strong not matter what happens.
2006-09-17 14:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your grandmother, first of all. Find out for sure if this is true.
If it is, the kids should know they have a new half-brother or half-sister. That's probably a bit much, but they're going to find out sooner or later. On the other hand, it might be better if they didn't find out until later.....take into consideration what will happen if the other kids at school find out.
I really hope for your sake that this turns out not to be true. This is a sticky mess no matter how you look at it.
2006-09-17 14:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
99% of all rumors start from some fact!!!!! Check your facts carefully. I know a man who has been married for 14 years and has 2 children. However he's got child outside of the marriage who is now two.. His wife has seen this child on many occasions and still is completely clueless.
2006-09-17 15:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him for your sake and your childrens to take a DNA test that way the rumours will stop and you can get on with your lives.
If it is his, I would leave. You have to set an example of how you should treat your signifacant other in a relationship and how you deserve to be treated yourself to your children. Exspecially if you have little girls. You don't want them ending up with a man like that when they get older.
2006-09-17 14:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree once a cheater always a cheater. I was with my ex husband for 11 yrs until i gave his you know what the boot. I got my life together and moved on. If that is so you can do the same and raise three kids trust me.
2006-09-17 14:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by binnu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband about whats going on, because you have the right to know. After you know the truth, then you take the steps you feel you need to take. After all, it could just be rumors.
2006-09-17 14:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always trust my intuition and it's never been wrong. I hope in your case it's wrong, but you need to do whats best for you and your family.
It's going to be tough but pray and you will find answers.
Good luck to you and your family.
2006-09-17 14:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋