For the last while it seems like she's been distanced from me and I don't like it. She's been inexpressive. I still love being around her It's been making me pretty sad. Could I get used to it? Everytime I think of breaking up with her I think of how terrible it would be. She's so amazing. But I'd rather feel bad for awhile after breaking it up than continue being confused by her actions. I'm going to try to talk to her about how things used to be between us but if I can't get that back?
2006-09-17 13:24:05 · 18 answers · asked by MarkySparky S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well for the most part I think that sitting her down and talking to her should make things more clear. You just have to make sure that you know exactly what questions you want answered. Mak sure that you have no unanswered questions and your not left in the dark. Relationships are all about trust and communicating. And if in the end you guys can't do those things then it might be better off just breaking it off and going on with your life...no matter what you can't die from trying it. You live and learn.
2006-09-17 13:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has something on her mind, some sort of problem she may not feel comfortable sharing with you. I would not talk to her about how things used to be, but just make sure you tell her that you know something is wrong and that whatever it is, you will listen and not get upset. Or if you do, you will think about it before reacting. She needs to know you will not condemn her for whatever her problem is. Even if what she has to say is not what you want to hear, you love her and want to help her through whatever she is going through. Call me a hopeless romantic, but if love each other and are honest with each other, there is nothing you two cannot work out together. Be there for her. She needs you.
2006-09-17 20:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by blackanubis9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a lot like my husband. It's a family trait with him, something he can't realize or avoid. It's been very hard, but I've learned how to deal with him when he gets in those moods. Just ignore the present, and go on with your business in another room (or location, as may be your case). These moods tend to pass. If you really love her, you can do this. Of course, if the moods don't pass, and it stays the same, I think you've already answered your own question. Good luck!
2006-09-17 20:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should probably both sit down and talk about what your concerns are in regards to the relationship. if she started acting this way out of nowhere she most likely has some concerns of her own and it is WORTH discussing.
however, the fact that you would be willing to dismiss the relationship entirely at the FIRST SIGN of problems probably should be a red flag for you.......if you could let go that easily then your heart wasn't in it to begin with, and if that IS the case you should save both of you a whole lot of pain and end it as soon as you realize it.
LOVE IS NOTHING IF NOT ENDURING.
if yours can't endure a rough patch, then it isn't love at all.
2006-09-18 04:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the first step if she isnt willing to meet you at least half way then there is no relationship. if comunications are down and she and you arent working together to solve your differences then there is no reason for you to suffer any more than breaking up would cause. I hope she realizes how much she means to you but if she dont end it if not for yourself for her because she will need it because she will definately need a wake up call on how to treat a significant other good luck
2006-09-17 20:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by timothy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her about it just sit her down and talk to her in a calm voice and be real dont make up anything so she wont feel bad just be "True Blue". She Cannot Read your mind so you have to communicate with her not by text messaging or computer or voice mail in person. GL AND GOD BLESS.
2006-09-17 20:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write down what you like about her one one sheet and what you don't on another and what you want to change .
Then go with her to a place where you can talk without being distracted
hope it works out!!
2006-09-17 20:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by I hear ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are difficult, if you feel like she's been distant from you, maybe you should try talking to her and explaining to her how you feel. If that doesnt work, maybe you two should just break it off and remain friends if thats possible.
2006-09-17 21:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by jess_springfield_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. i am POSITIVE it will make a difference :). this is most likely your best way to go since you like her so much, if you think it isn't gona work out just break up with her or at least give it a try.
2006-09-17 20:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what surprises me is that you have not made an effort to find out what her problem is.you may be her problem then again she may not want this relationship anymore.dont be afraid to find out the truth.you will be better of knowing
2006-09-17 20:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋