when he has said things to me that he wouldn't have sex with a married woman, but then at other times he said he would. On two occassions he has hit me in the butt with objects and has said that my hair looks hot. Recently he said that he was looking to have sex one night and that he had "loose morals". I decided 2 ask him based on all the other stuff that he has said to me and done in the past if he was hinting that he wanted to sleep with me. He said no and that he was venting. He does & says all of this while he is drunk. the following week he ended up telling a group of people while I wasn't there that I think that he wants to have sex with me. the following day he subtly brought it up in front of the same group of people. I was mortified and i don't even know what to think. what do you all think. I wouldn't have slept with him but i feel as tho there was no respect for how i felt. he is in a group of friends that i normally hang out with, but am being made fun of occassionally.
2006-09-17 13:11:21 · 6 answers · asked by wants2know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
also i have posted another question that ties in with this question if you want to preview that also before answering. thanks
2006-09-17 13:12:11 · update #1
also i want to say that what i feel like i did was wrong i want to know if i have the right to b upset.
2006-09-17 13:12:43 · update #2
I would tell the looser to quit dreaming he is never gonna get you in bed period.
2006-09-17 14:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by luvpanty48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change how he feels. But he was wrong to tell
you and others how he felt, inappropriate.
But if your serious about your spouse and having a good marriage you need to end these types of relationships. They seem harmless but they are so dangerous.
Sorry if that seems harsh but I've seen it a million times.
Usually if a person flirts with this type of talk then they both
want to experiment, deep down inside.
Why isn't your spouse part of this circle, what would they think of this? Be fair to your spouse give them 100% or find out why your
not.
2006-09-17 20:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by terraliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are bringing this problem on yourself by entertaining his fantasy and have made it your fantasy. I think you want each other but are afraid to take the next step. let me warning you if you continue to intertain that fantasy you might just fall into the holw you dug for yourself and will lose your marriage, family and peace of mind. So distance yourself from this person and never talk to him about sex again.
2006-09-17 20:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have every right to be upset. what he did was sexual harrasment and you should tell your husband. If this was happening to my wife I would be very mad if she didnt tell me. Once I found out the friend wouldnt even want to hang out at my house
2006-09-17 20:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by dave d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are not very freindly. I would find someone else to hang out with.
2006-09-17 20:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by wowwhatwasthat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd knock him on his *** .
2006-09-17 20:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by joel s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋