I'm married recently due to certain circumstances, and my husband is overseas, and I'm supposed to be applying for him to come over here. His only reason for coming is because I'm here.
I met someone who I want to go through the rest of my life with, but how do I tell my husband that I dont love him anymore, without making him feel that it's his fault?
2006-09-17 13:04:16 · 35 answers · asked by daredevil2b4life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be honest, tell him you're not in love with him anymore, people change over time and so do feelings. tell him asap, it's the best thing to do
2006-09-17 13:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your making a big mistake if you do this. Sooner or later you'll start having problems with this new man and on top of that this guy doesn't respect people if he's fooling around with a married woman. I'm telling you that everything you are feeling is just a passing wind. I know you really do love your husband more deeply than you realize right now. But, if you don't see that then it's your loss and you will go from one person to another trying to find something you never will.
2006-09-17 13:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by inluvwshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am not sure how you should come across that road.. you have to ask yourself is it really over? Did you honor your marriage from the start? and why did you fall out of love or is it because of being alone, you allowed someone else to step in and replace the man you once loved.
You can pray about it and allow god to work it out. if it all over said and done with, no need to waste time keeping a lie going. You turned your planted flowers into weeds, now pull them out and start new garden. Each day you wait is only going to get harder. You have to stand up and be real with all things yes hurt is real. Life is no joke. deal with the crime at hand LOVE IS LOVE>. Unconditional, storms trials, and lost words, I just pray that the man your running to wants the same love type of love, you want to share because if he doesn't your going to be messed up.
2006-09-17 13:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a lot of info here DD......
There are many ways of desolving a marriage .If you haven't been married a long time and have been seperated a long time that is good enough to ask for a divorce....Are there kids ? proably not......
It always hurts when a divorce happens.someone hurts....Just go to a divorce lawyer , apply to divorce the guy and get the papers served on him......There are reasons that a divorce is granted and meeting someone else who you are attracted to and wanting to rip the heart out of the man you married is not legitimate.....
But like I said , you offered no details.......
See that attorney and file for divorce..Sometimes you have to wait for a year until it is desolved......
In the mean time don't give yourself up so easily ....marriage isn't a game .you know that and are hurting because you will soon be hurting someone else.......
Think...Do Not marry ...remember there IS a time between the application and desolution of a divorce......Don't re-marry during that time .....
2006-09-17 13:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
daredevil there is no easy way to tell someone you dont love them anymore ,but I would not wait until he comes back where you are ,he may wish to go somewhere else .so I would just be honest with him and tell him ,it will hurt you to do this as well as he will hurt ,but honest and straight up is the only fair way .Just tell him you are sorry but you have to be honest or it would be worse on him later .you can do this and now not later is best .I know you are scared I was ,but just be honest and then move on .be sure of your feelings first .you dont want to look back and regret anything .wishing you the best .
2006-09-17 13:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how u can get married to someone and then just give it up that easily because u met someone else. Whatever happened to upholding your vows?
Do your husband a favor and just tell him like it is because the way I see it, it doesn't matter how u approach the subject.... he will get hurt either way.
2006-09-17 13:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have a problem with is that you got married and he went away for some reason. Now, he's coming back for you and you do this to him. You aren't even waiting to see how things will be when he gets back. You won't even let time mend the distance that was between you and your husband. You aren't giving your new marriage much of a chance. You should tell him now so that he knows what kind of woman you are and be away with you. I think that it's wrong of you to profess your love to one man and say that you love him, make vows to love him "for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til DEATH do you (both) part" and then when he's gone...Oops! I sorry I'm not in love with you anymore...I'm in "love" with him now. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with you anymore. I want to spend it with this other guy now." I don't think that you quite got the complete meaning of "love" and "marriage" Maybe instead of jumping from one guy to another, you should find out what it is you want in yourself, life, a man and marriage. I don't think that you should be with either man. I think that you should tell your HUSBAND that you were unfaithful or had these thoughts and instead of waiting for him to come back and work things out with him because I'm assumiing that he doesn't even know that there are any problems. So, here he is...married to you...had to go away...happy to come back for you and be with you and BAM! you're with someone else. Geez! I'm sorry to say but you suck. You should tell him the truth. Tell him "I know that we just got married and you had to go away but for some reason I believe that I am too immature to be in a marriage and I'm terribly sorry for doing this to you. I was tempted by another man and now I think I'm in love with him instead. I have no idea what I want but I don't want to burden you with a wife like me anymore." Best wishes to him and I hope he takes care.
2006-09-17 13:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I reading between the lines right - you got married so an alien could immigrate to the United States?
Have the marriage annulled and get on with your life.
2006-09-17 13:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell him you don't have the same feelings you once did now and that you met somebody new. If anything, he'll decide not to move to where you are and it won't be a big confrontational mess.
2006-09-17 13:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to say that you are cheating on him while he is overseas and that he is out of the picture now. But you have to tell him. Don't keep leading him on.
2006-09-17 13:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daredevil: listen up now because your hubby will come home
when his ferlo is due! in what I suggested warn him that you
is Leaving because things dont look very good just write an letter
2006-09-17 13:12:55 · answer #11 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋