my husband and i have been married for almost 9 years.he went to the bar one night and some female "drug" him out.from there they went out to breakfast, and after that they went back to someone elses house and played some pool together and finnished the night out by laying together and holding eachother. He says there was no sex but i say it dosent matter because by doing what he did he already cheated on me. Who is right in this situation?
2006-09-17 12:58:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're right. He cheated on you.
2006-09-17 14:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...and you bought the line "some woman slipped him a micky"?
Your husband should not be out all night at some bar without you, a couple of hours with friends, thats okay but, he should be home with you if this is going to happen.
My opinion is that he lied to you about what really happened.
And my answer is, He is totally WRONG. You need to ask him some very hard pressing questions, if he gets angry or starts stuttering, the choice is up to you as to what needs to be done next, because that will be proof there are games afoot in your marriage.
I hope the best for you and you alone.
2006-09-17 13:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Martin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fool yourself. She did not drag him out of anywhere, he went. And don't be fooled to think that he has so much restraint that he did not do anything but lay next to this woman. No emotions, No feelings, No thoughts, nothing.......Please. If the shoe was on the other foot how much laying would you have done next to an attractive man, (without even the thought). You must understand, men do what they can get away with, and tell you what they think you will believe. Bottom line he CHEATED!
2006-09-17 13:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, this is emotional cheating even if there was nothing physical, if you believe that. There was probably kissing and touching even if there was no actual intercourse because that just doesn't sound right. Sounds like your relationship needs a second look. I would seek a professional, go to counselling or something and found out why he would have done this in the first place.
This man doesn't sound happily married and committed to me.
2006-09-17 13:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are..... Would he like you cuddling up to anyone let alone someone you met in a bar? He cheated emotionally if not more than that... But your opinion is what counts.... How does it make you feel? I hope the best for you.... ♥
Emotionally is something dangerous as well. Who knows where it could end up leading him.... Trust yourself... And get it out in the open between you and him and where it goes from here... ♥
2006-09-17 13:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Not Spoiled Just Loved♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a problem?
What are you asking?
Are you having second thoughts on a full hand of facts that scream in your face that he cheated?
My dear, it can't be any more clear, it is your own feelings that are trying to elude the fact that the end is coming.
Better get this clear and solved this first time, try to forgive his lies and infidelity. ONCE.
There never will be a second time, if it come to occurs then someone has to live.
2006-09-17 13:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is sad. If your husband loves you he wouldn't have even come close to this lady. You're in the right, as far as I am concerned he cheated. It's only a matter of time before he takes the next step.
2006-09-17 14:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by bolddragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they did not have intercourse, then legally there was no adultery.
However, it sounds like he did "cheat" on you in the sense that he spent intimate [close but not sexual] time with another woman.
What the hell difference does it make regarding who is right? The question is - do you love him?
If so, are you going to tolerate this kind of behavior?
If no, then tell him to pack up and move out because the marriage is over.
If yes, [you are going to accept this behavior], then leave us out of it.
2006-09-17 13:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can't tell you what to do because its your life but it seems to me that he was doing a bit much to feel he is innocent and for him to know everything he did he was fully alert about what was going on so maybe he wasn't drugged out he walked out willingly so maybe the question is what his true intentions were and were is your marriage going from here but if you can't forgive him there is no need to try to figure it out because your always going to bring it up when he is out late or something doesn't sit right with you so if you love him and can forgive him work it out but if not let go and don't let what other people think make up your mind you make your own decision but its good to get opinions good luck
2006-09-17 13:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by icandi22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters.... If she really DRUG him out of there, either your husband is a puny little wimp, or she is a huge brute of a woman.
But seriously. Tell him that if it were you who had done this with a male friend, how would he feel?
Then have his bags packed and tell him to think about it for a while.
2006-09-17 13:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by I Drive a Mini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he did, in fact, CHEAT.
Is it the first time he gets caught?
You're right on this situation, even if there was not intercourse he was lying there with another woman.
Ask him what will he think if he finds you liyng in the arms of another man at any time, let around a full night?
2006-09-17 13:17:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋