I am a 14 year old girl that has a now 15 year old male friend that was shot and killed over who no's what reason and i just need help how to deal with it. Most black people which i am black grows up in the streets and die end the streets and that what happen at such a young age. i need help and dont know how to deal with it.
2006-09-17 12:30:49 · 7 answers · asked by jazzybug05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jazz its a huge loss when a friend is lost at such a young age
They have left their caring and loving friends and family with a void that is both sadness and disbelief that they have been lost . how can you cope with this loss I would guess badly there will be days of hate for those that took his life there will be days of sadness for the loss of your friend and then there will be days when a little thing will spark a happy memory of that person that you miss Jazz these are the things that in time will stay with you so try as hard as it is to dwell on the little things that he and you might have shared so in time you will smile as you recall a good friend and a missed part of your life. .Get a group of friends together and just have a little ceremony of your own everyone tell a little story about why you miss your friend and why he is your mate after all if you vent together then you can support each other , you are a caring friend and I'm sure if there is an after life he will stand and wait for you hug you and say thank you because you cared .
2006-09-17 12:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweatheart , I am so sorry for your loss . The only thing I can tell you is based on how I coped when my Daddy was killed in a car accident . I didn't think I would ever be able to
deal with the horrible feelings of loss and emptiness I was feeling . I had to be strong for my Mom too . When I finnaly realized that my Dad wouldn't want me to be so sad all of the time it helped . Then I made it a habit to remember all the great times we had together instead of wollowing in my sorrow .
It takes time for the hurt to weaken and get your life back on track , but your friend would want you to get on with your life too !
You are very young and have a hopefully long happy life ahead of you . Just be greatful that you had such a good friend ,and go on and live .
2006-09-17 16:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this will help a little when i was 9 i had a friend that i spent alot of time with she was 8, this was in 1974. she died in a accident with a gun, she was shot in the neck by a shotgun, all you can do is talk to people about it, like your parents a priest. or a school consoler, its incredible hard to deal with a lose like these, good luck, i still think of her an im 42 now. but i remember her for who she was, an not what happened to her, slick is pretty close to what its like
2006-09-17 12:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by elltea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's rough honey,I wish I could help.I recently lost my daughter to a drunk driver.You never really get over things like that.maybe try to join some groups that help to keep kids off the street,volunteer to be a role model to the younger ones.Good Luck.So Sorry for your loss.
2006-09-17 12:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it your #1 goal to get off the streets and never look back.
2006-09-17 12:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a counselor and think 2 on your actions and dont do anything stupid
2006-09-17 12:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUS LET ALL OF UR FEELING GO
2006-09-17 12:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by -♥ Brii_Baybee♥ - 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋