i'm 13 year old and i have a hero and she's 19. She's really like a sister to me but i'm afarid to tel her that part, but she knows she's my hero. But any who, I have already started my period. But i want to ask her how old she was when she did. I dont wanna sound weird, and it's really hard for me to talk about things like this. But i want to break the wall down about this kind of stuff with her, and be able to talk to her about it. If you know what i mean, because i cant talk to my mom about it. But i was wondering if anyone knew anyways to ask, because i'm pretty nervous. Any experiences?
2006-09-17 12:15:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I would suggest you approach her the same way you approached this question. Say "hey, would it be alright if I asked you questions about girly stuff? I have trouble talking to my mom and I need some advice." I think most young girls have questions. It has been my experience that women don't usually have too much trouble talking to each other about this sort of thing. I'm sure if you ask your friend, she won't mind talking to you about it. She probably remembers what it's like to be your age and have questions and uncertainties.
2006-09-17 12:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by MegySu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like you're the only one with this problem! Many girls are very self-conscious about talking about personal health issues. When I was 13, I had that problem, too. :)
OK. Where to start?
You have to break down this wall sometime soon if talking to her about your period is important to you. However, it's not something that you should talk to everyone about.
Personally, I would just come out and ask her something straight out:
When did you start your period?
What kinds of pads/tampons do you use for your period?
Ask her anything!
I also want to comment on one more thing. I don't know what your reasons are for not talking to your mom about it, but if you ever have the chance, she should be the first person you go to. She will be aware of the things you need to know. A 19-year old may not be able to help with every part of your period.
Best of luck!
2006-09-17 12:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
O.k so your hero is 19. If she is a true friend she won't mind you asking about this as she has had a few years of having periods herself. I'm not sure what you want to ask her exactly regarding periods but here are a few guidelines. They generally last 5-7 days. Your monthly cycle is about 28 days and day 1 is the day that your period starts. It is useful to keep a diary so that you know when its next due and you are prepared for it as its very embarrassing to forget and start bleeding! Maybe keep a couple of pads in your locker "just in case". At 13 you probably can't use tampons so keep to pads(towels). Don't worry if your periods are not very regular to start with-that is normal and varies from one person to another. You may get cramps-pains in the belly when you have your period-go to the chemist/pharmacy for paracetamol or something sold for period pains to help you. It may also make you feel tired when you have them. Don't feel embarrassed-its normal. Remember now that although you are only 13 you are old enough to become pregnant-not that you should be doing any type of sexual activity at your age! You don't have to tell your friend she is like a sister to you if that bothers you-just bring up the periods somehow-maybe ask her which type of pads she buys or something? I hope this helps.
2006-09-17 12:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by angeldust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds like you have a great friend. From what you have explained about your relationship, that really isn't a bad question to ask! Getting your period is a normal fact of life and shouldn't be embarassing to talk about. Sounds like you have learned enough about her to trust her to call her your hero. If she is, she will be more than happy to open up to you about this. Honestly, this isn't a wierd question... Me? I was around 13. You go girl.
2006-09-17 12:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by happymonkie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you that I started mine at 11.75 with the average being 12.5, so just assume she was 12. You don't need to ask her if you feel uncomfortable because there are plenty of women on here who'll gladly devulge such information. Mine started on March 19, 1995, then I turned 12 EXACTLY 3 months later on June 19th. So please don't make yourself uncomfortable by asking someone less brazen who might tell you off. Some people feel shy about that sort of thing for reasons unknown to me. I mean, why hide it if you started within 3 years of the median age? It just means you're a normal, healthy woman.
2006-09-17 12:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll find that the start of the menses vary from person to person, ages 11 to 15 (approx.) It's a shame you can't talk to your mom 'cause we often have similar experiences to our moms, whether it's how old you both were when you started and also to what age you might expect to stop. Another person to get info. from is your m.d.
2006-09-17 12:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by jokoangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're as close to eachother as you say then it shouldn't be hard to tell her things. Just ask whether you could ask her something personal. Tell her that you've started to get your period and you want to know about hers. Most girls will have no problem talking about it...Especially with someone younger and less knowledgable.
2006-09-17 12:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by njagalamalaya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would start the conversation with something like: have you had a period lately. Or if you know her well enough drop here an email.Phone her. Sometimes it is easier to tell people stuff when you aren't looking at them.
2006-09-17 12:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Halloween freak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. The truth is always the best way to go. Tell her that you want to ask her a personal question, but that you're a little nervous about it. If you have a good relationship with her, then she will want to hear your question. Good luck
2006-09-17 12:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by blue_church_mouse 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cat,
One of the most wonderful things about women is the fact that we can share personal details about ourselves. We talk and communicate.
Be open with your hero, she will be GLAD to answer your questions.
When you have questions about your body, don't be shy to ask. No question is stupid or unfamiliar.
2006-09-17 12:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋