What do you do when you know your sister is being abused by her boyfriend?

Question

My sister has been and still is being abused by her boyfriend. Some day I willl not be surprised to hear that he has beaten her severly; Many times i try talking to her but I feel that it falls on deaf ears. I cannot win with her. It has been going on for years and she doesn't listen

Answer 1

Call the police. Your sister could be killed if you don't do something. They will tell you what you need to do. Please.

Answer 2

If you are afraid that you or the boyfriend will find out that you've reported him, you can call the police and provide a tip anonymously. Unfortunately, it may take a serious beating for her to get help. Doctors know the difference between falling down and getting beaten and are obligated by law to report such injuries. If it comes to that point, she won't have a choice as to what happens to him. If she cares about him that much, she can stop him from going to prison if she does that. I know it sounds like odd logic or insensitivity to the real issue on my part, but if it gets her out of the relationship, it's accomplished its purpose.

Answer 3

Track the boyfriends movements, find a time when they are not together AND he can be taken out away from the public eye. Then if in Dallas you take an assassination team with you, take him out, and drop him in the Trinity since the police will never dredge up the Trinity.

If he makes himself a military target, he should expect to be treated like one. Harming a member of my family is the easiest way to accomplish this.

Answer 4

No matter what, you can't make someone leave someone who is abusive. They have to do it on their own, unfortunately. If you ever see him abuse her, you can call the cops.

I will pray she gets enough courage up to leave him. No One deserves to be abused. You are such a good sister for trying.

I know there are domestic violence numbers that she can call. There are cards in some bathrooms that give the number. I have one a work I can give you to give her.

I will pray she meets someone who was in the same situation and that person convinces her she is worth so much more.

Tell her I said she is a special person and deserves to be treated like a queen. I am so glad they are not married. I will be praying for you both. I will pray the boyfriend wakes up and sees what he is doing. Apologizing is not enough. I would have left his behind a long time ago.

Continue to be there for when she is ready. I will pray for your strength. God Bless.

Answer 5

First, you tell your parents. You can also contact the local authorities for information on the womens resource center in your area. They offer counseling for people in abusive relationships.
Keeping it a secret is definitely the wrong thing to do. Assisting your sister to get away from him would be great but you'll need to be safe doing so.
Don't be afraid to ask for help. And.........do so before it's too late.

Answer 6

I had a friend who just went though the same thing. I told her many times before that she needed to leave. She's been in the hospital 3 times this year. I went to my local library and got pamphlets on women in abusive relationships and left them in her car. She finally went to one of the meetings and she's in a home for abused women. Try to find workshops or groups that will help women get out of abusive relationships and leave it where she can see them. (Not where he can). Sometime it takes someone else to tell them. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 7

one of two things are going on....one she is on drugs...or the more probable thing is that she has and is sleeping with him.
God made women a certain way...usually they think they belong to the man once they sleep with them...therefore if she leaves she feels as though she would be labeled a whore...she is afraid to leave. OR he has threatened her if she were to leave it would be fatal. You can get her into some co-dependent counseling which may or may not help...you can get her to go to work somewhere and sometimes that helps women feel more confident and you can pray with her...help, look up scriptures together what God expects from women and from men in a marriage...there is a lot you can do...but quit talking to her about it...perhaps another woman who has been in a similar relationship can give her some insight to make some decisions.

Answer 8

I recently just got out of an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship. And let me tell you. I did my best to keep it from everyone because I didn't want people to know but my friends and family started to know and they kept pushing me to get out of it. Ultimately your sister is the only one who can decide to leave him, but by telling her everyday that things aren't suppose to be that way, then that might help her make the decision sooner before it's too late and something serious happens. Tell her friends, tell your parents and most importantly don't just sit there and let her get hurt. DO SOMETHING.

Answer 9

Start taking pictures and dating them, see if she will let you take her to the doctor, and then they will have to report it, get in touch with a abuse center in your area, ask them the procedure in your state. I think as a sister, if any thing happens to her you will never forgive yourself. So if she does not want help, then you see what you can do. You can also call, the police to see what they say. Thank God, you are trying to get help.

Answer 10

You can talk to your sister until you are blue in the face, but until she is ready, there is nothing you can do, just be there for her. Let her know that you are behind her 100 percent no matter what. But the more you try talking to her about it, you are only going to push her closer to this man.

Answer 11

Unfotunately, in some cases you have to have to accept that they aren't going to listen... If I were you, and i thought that she is being regularly abused and "for years" i would have gone to the police or seomthing a long time ago. if you care about someone and they can't help themselves, then do wat you can to get her out of that situation as soon as possible. there are probably plenty of resources you can go to that will help - womens rights organizations, law \enforcement, etc. Try them ALL. But find help asap.